|Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on January 23, 2018 at 12:40 AM|
|Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on December 14, 2017 at 12:50 AM|
So here we are in just a mere 19 days left, and we will say goodbye to 2017. A new year is coming. I have grown, matured and learned so much as an entrepreneur I thought I’d write a short blog about it, okay maybe it won’t be so short but go with me.
This year was an incredible year of growth and development for me. Don’t get me wrong it hasn’t come without it’s challenges, but in everything I have gone through I continue to be amazed at the faithfulness of God.
This year some of my dreams became a reality. My business is no longer housed in my home office, or in my portable portfolio. This year after many years of looking for just the right space we are located in a beautiful space in downtown Greensboro, overlooking a great view. If you knew the story of how I got it, you’d praise God with me. This year my writing career went to another level, I wrote and completed more projects than any other year. I will spare you the details but trust me I am just in awe of the magnitude that God allows me to produce. When His hand is on what you do there is no stopping you.
So like I said this year has been a great year of growth, transformation, and strength. I can end this year on a positive note, I am so grateful for the journey. I thought I’d blog ten things I have learned about being a Christian entrepreneur. Of course, there are more than ten but for the sake of time let’s stick to 10. They are in no particular order, and in everything I do I will never leave out my love, Jesus Christ, without Him nothing would be possible.
The value of time. One of my sayings is that I value my time like I value my money I am very careful who I spend it on. I am a woman that is driven to pursue purpose on purpose. If there is one thing, I have learned about myself as an entrepreneur that is I have zero tolerance for people who waste my time. I have concluded this year if an individual is not pursuing purpose like I am and if they cannot articulate themselves, if they call me to talk about nothing, I have no use for them. I am not mean, but I value my time, I am not going to waste it doing nothing, with purposeless conversations. I know that may sound mean to some of you, but that is my truth. When you have a vision that you are actively working, you don’t have time for purposeless people who are sent to distract you from the assignment.
Connections- This year I finally decided to be careful about connections. Just because someone is supportive of your vision doesn’t mean they are capable of actually helping you to fulfill it. You can love someone with all your heart, but the reality is they can’t go where God is taking you and believe it or not that is okay. That’s one of the life lessons God has had to teach me over and over again.
Sacrifice. I knew entrepreneurship took sacrifice, but this year I have sacrificed so much more than I did in years before. For example today, I drove to one of my offices that is an hour away, then drove back to my downtown office in Greensboro for a consultation. The entire time I just wanted to go to my home and go to bed. I get to my downtown office, and the client decides she would rather do the consultation over the phone. Yes, I was slightly annoyed by this, I didn’t have to drive back an hour just to meet with her, I could’ve have just called her. Then I turned and drove another two hours to get to a two day training (a training I am not looking forward to by the way.) My point is today was a sacrifice. An entrepreneur spends time, up before everyone else, staying later then anyone else, all pursuing the vision. Often it doesn’t feel like work because you enjoy what you do, but today it felt like work. I am exhausted, but I needed to add content to my website so after I got to my hotel I started this blog, plus I can’t let a good idea go to waste.
Insurance, insurance, insurance. Yes, I am a therapist in private practice, so navigating and learning insurance has been quite challenging but you know what I learned a lot. It is not as frustrating as it was at the beginning. There is a learning curve.
I learned never invest more into someone else's vision than they are willing to invest in themselves. I push myself hard, so when I connect with others to complete their work, I push them just as hard. However, I learned I couldn’t want it more for them then they want it for themselves. I learned to let go.
NO! NO! NO! I have learned to say No! No! I can’t just talk to you over the phone “just to talk” I am a therapist, so when you say “I need to talk.” What you mean is “I need to see a therapist I just don’t want to acknowledge a mental health diagnosis, I don’t want to come to your office, I don’t want to sit down and talk because I don’t want to acknowledge my mental illness.” Christians have such stigma when it comes to mental illness; they don’t want to call it what it is. If you are not my mother, my sister or my friend, but you need to “just talk” what I interpret that is, you are wanting to be my client without acknowledging it as so. Feel free to call my number, set up an appointment for an IN OFFICE counseling session, otherwise NO! I will not be “just talking” to you.
NO! I do not offer FREE services. I heard it said that people don’t respect you when it’s free. Yep! I learned this one the hard way. By the way, I have had people call me and ask me to write entire books for them for free, consult with them for free. Ummm NO! It takes time to write a book, particularly the kinds of books I write. No, I don’t just throw together a pamphlet I mean a book overnight. I take time, do my research and make sure the book is industry standard. I learned that people that continue to ask for free services don’t respect or value you as an entrepreneur. That may sound strange, but my bills are not free, my office space is not free, my office supplies are not free, the upkeep of my license to practice is not free, my websites, marketing material, book cover, editors, etc. all of that is not free. My time is NOT free. Don’t ask!
Walk with confidence. I got the confidence lesson a couple of years ago, but this year I learned confidence to a greater degree. My pastor told us a few months ago, people may not talk about your progress, but they will see. I would like to add people won’t believe in your vision until they see results. No one believed in me, but God when I started out over twenty years ago I was a broke college student who just wanted to graduate from college. Now they see the results. I don’t do what I do for people, but I realized a long time ago I had to do what I did unto God not to please people.
My life principle is never to pursue people. I live by this; I pursue God. This year I stuck to my guns. If someone doesn’t see my value that is their problem. Everybody can’t see the difference between a cubic zirconia and a diamond. It is not your job to convince anyone of who you are; it is your job to be what God has called you to be.
Ultimately Christian entrepreneurship is not meant to seek financial stability; it is not to seek a house or a car, it is not so we have the accolades of man, although those are great benefits when you become a success. Christian entrepreneurship is really about seeking to advance God’s kingdom, His way. When I think of advancing God’s kingdom, and that He would use me I am only grateful to God for choosing me.
Matthew 6:33 (KJV)
33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.
My advice to all entrepreneurs, as God told me, seek right living, seek to advance God kingdom through His methods. Let us let go of self and pursue Him at all cost. Be blessed and go forth in Jesus name.
Samaria M Colbert © 2017
|Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on November 28, 2017 at 1:00 PM|
By Samaria M Colbert
The The headship anointing operates at a different level of vision than most people
Headship anointing is the ability to delegate authority. The chapter discussed Exodus 18, Moses had to select certain men to release his authority on to.
There is an old saying that goes. “if you want something done right do it yourself”. This is wrong very wrong, and will get you wearied and stressed out very quickly. Learn how to delegate authority to others.
The headship anointing operates in greater dimensions of signs, wonders and miracles in both the spirit realm and in business.
Headship anointed persons operate in divine boldness, confidence and authority.
Headship anointing is another word of visionary. Those who have the headship anointing branch out into new territory. They have the ability to bring the kingdom to earth, through the marketplace.
If you have made it thus far in this book, you have the headship anointing. It comes along with God’s kind of success. There is so much more I could say, but I won’t. I will end with this final scripture. Remember God is our source, not man, not our marketing strategy, God. He will be the one to bring success at your door.
The headship anointing is the anointing to develope and grow other people.
|Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on November 13, 2017 at 3:45 PM|
When people say a woman can't be a entrepreneur, in ministry, married and have a family tell them to read their bible. When they say you can't have it all tell them to read their bible. When they say your doing to much tell them read their bible. When they say your too ambitious, intimidating, or to driven tell them to read their bible. When they tell you, you have to slow down to get a man tell them to read their bible. When they tell you what you can't do because you are a woman, tell them to read their bible. There we are right in the text.
Proverbs 31:10-31 Amplified Bible (AMP)
Description of a Worthy Woman
10 [a]An excellent woman [one who is spiritual, capable, intelligent, and virtuous], who is he who can find her?
Her value is more precious than jewels and her worth is far above rubies or pearls.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her [with secure confidence],
And he will have no lack of gain.
12 She comforts, encourages, and does him only good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She looks for wool and flax
And works with willing hands in delight.
14 She is like the merchant ships [abounding with treasure];
She brings her [household’s] food from far away.
15 She rises also while it is still night
And gives food to her household
And assigns tasks to her maids.
16 She considers a field before she buys or accepts it [expanding her business prudently];
With her profits she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard.
17 She equips herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task]
And makes her arms strong.
18 She sees that her gain is good;
Her lamp does not go out, but it burns continually through the night [she is prepared for whatever lies ahead.
19 She stretches out her hands to the [b]distaff,
And her hands hold the spindle [as she spins wool into thread for clothing].
20 She opens and extends her hand to the poor,
And she reaches out her filled hands to the needy.
21 She does not fear the snow for her household,
For all in her household are clothed in [expensive] scarlet [wool].
22 She makes for herself coverlets, cushions, and rugs of tapestry.
Her clothing is linen, pure and fine, and purple [wool].
23 Her husband is known in the [city’s] gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes [fine] linen garments and sells them;
And supplies sashes to the merchants.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing and her position is strong and secure;
And she smiles at the future [knowing that she and her family are prepared].
26 She opens her mouth in [skillful and godly] wisdom,
And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue [giving counsel and instruction].
27 She looks well to how things go in her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed (happy, prosperous, to be admired);
Her husband also, and he praises her, saying,
29 “Many daughters have done nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness],
[c]But you excel them all.”
30 Charm and grace are deceptive, and [superficial] beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the Lord [reverently worshiping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect], she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the product of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates [of the city].
|Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on October 9, 2017 at 2:05 PM|
The Spirit of Jezebel Versus The Spirit of Esther (A Proverbs 31 Woman)
By: Samaria M Colbert
As promised this blog is a follow up to the previous blog where I talked about the spirit of Ahab. As stated it is a demonic agenda sent by satan himself to emasculate the man. Emasculate means deprive (a man) of his male role or identity. We see this subtle demonic attack in our world in a greater way. Unfortunately, many Christians have fallen prey to the demonic agenda because we have a many Christians who are carnal, fleshly driven. Whenever an individual is carnally driven, they cannot see or perceive the things of the spirit. They certainly cannot see the plan or agenda of the enemy, because his success is based up the spirit of delusion and deception. Just because it looks right, doesn’t mean it is right.
The demonic agenda that is infiltering our world is coming in the form of the feminist agenda. The feminist agenda appears to be about fighting for women’s rights, and equality. Sounds great right? Well if you study further and look at the principles of the perspective it really is based on the spirit of Jezebel. Don’t get me wrong I am not against a women being in positions of power and authority. I am a woman who is very much empowered in ministry, entrepreneurship, and life. We cannot deny the demonic agenda of satan.
God wants and expects women to operate in power, authority, dominion, in ministry, business, and in every area of our lives. However, He never created us to be in competition with a man. He never created us to emasculate them so that we can be in charge.
This is why I write this blog. There is difference between the spirit of Jezebel (feminist agenda) versus a woman who walks in authority designated by the spirit of God. To truly understand this we must understand the difference between Queen Jezebel, and Queen Esther. Esther is not a spirit she was a woman who walked in God's authority. The spirit she walked in was that of a virtuous woman as found in Proverbs 31.
In order for us to get clarity, we must understand the difference between the Jezebel spirit (Queen Jezebel) versus Queen Esther (Proverbs 31). This blog proves that a woman can be in a position of power, authority, kingdom minded while being covered, ordained and sent from God. We have to know the difference, so we are aware of the differences in the demonic agenda versus the Kingdom of God's agenda.
• Both were married to Kings. Esther was married to King Ahasuerus. Jezebelwas married to King Ahab.
• Both had positions of power and authority
• Both had the kings heart.
• Both were beautiful
• Both were leaders
• Both were prophetic
• Both had the power to make decisions
• Both had power and influence
• Both were very intelligent
• Jezebel almost destroyed a nation. Esther saved a nation.
• Jezebel sought power by any means necessary. Esther never sought power but was put in a position of power by God.
Esther 4:14 (KJV)
14 For if thou altogether holdest thy peace at this time, then shall there enlargement and deliverance arise to the Jews from another place; but thou and thy father's house shall be destroyed: and who knoweth whether thou art come to the kingdom for such a time as this?
• Jezebel was controlling and manipulative.
• Esther was the complete opposite not controlling, not manipulative, quiet, discerning and kind. Esther was a humble woman.
• Esther was honored by God. God despised Jezebel because of her actions.
• Esther was submitted to her leaders including her adoptive father, and husband.
• Jezebel was unsubmitted, she usurped (to take, seize, disregard) her husband’s authority for her own agenda.
• Esther respected her husband’s authority, and didn’t have her own agenda, but had an agenda for God’s kingdom to be saved.
• Jezebel worshipped and served false idols (Baal)
• Esther worshipped and served God.
• Jezebel never sought counsel from others. She only sought other false prophets who would help to advance her demonic agenda.
• Esther sought wise counsel from godly fatherly leaders such as her Uncle Mordecai who was a godly man who honored God with his life.
• Jezebel's father was an idol worshiper.
There is so much more that we can say about their difference. My point is God never made any assumptions that women can’t be powerful, be positions of authority, and influence. If we are going to be women who advance God’s kingdom, are used powerfully to save our nation and our world, we must renounce this feminist agenda (Jezebel’s agenda really) and embrace Esther’s spirit (spirit of the Proverbs 31 woman). Again God wants us to be powerful beyond belief. He doesn’t want us to play politics, disrespect the authority of a man, or leaders, be manipulative or controlling for our own agenda. The remainder of the blog is how to identify the agenda/spirit of Jezebel versus and how to identify the agenda/spirit of Esther. If you want to be honored by God, we must see through the eyes of Esther.
Identifying the Jezebel Spirit in Others
Note you don’t have to have all identified, but if you identify at least of five the traits noted, we know that you struggle with a spirit of Jezebel. Note the Jezebel spirit can be found in both men and women.
• Embraces false god’s, goddesses, African spiritualist, ancient beliefs, tarot cards, psychic mediums, light work.
• Is spiritual but doesn’t identify herself as a Christian. Or if she does identify herself as a Christian she still all the while embraces other spiritual beliefs that are outside of the realm of Christ.
• Difficulty in relationships with men.
• May have been married multiple times.
• Difficulty submitting.
• Calls herself a prophet, a prophetess. If she isn’t embraced or put in a leadership position in the church, she will leave start her own church and give herself a title of prophet, prophetess, apostle and or bishop.
• Plays psychological games to get you or her husband to give her what she wants. She can cry fake tears at the drop of a dime.
• Sexually perverted.
• Embraces LGBT movement.
• Jezebel secretly suffers from church hurt; she was rejected by the church whether it was warranted or not. Because she is secretly hurt whenever something happens in our world whether it be a natural disaster, political unrest, crime, scandal she uses use facebook and social media as a means to subtly, attack the church, Christians, Christian leaders and its members.
• Because of her leadership capability, she is often put in positions of leadership within the church.
• Starts her own church and slowly begins to put seeds of discord in the hearts of others towards their leaders with the agenda of getting people to embrace her and her movement.
• Her ministry is not really about advancing the kingdom of God; rather it is about highlighting her and her own importance.
• Calls herself a “spiritual father” to others. ( Contrary to populate belief a spiritual mother is NOT the same as a spiritual father but both of them have their place within the kingdom of God. A woman is NOT a spiritual Father, NEITHER is a man a spiritual mother. These are two separate but needed positions of authority within the body of Christ. A woman cannot be a spiritual father. A man cannot be spiritual mother.
• Has blatant disregard for the rights of others.
• Secretly jealous and envious of others position of authority particular of another man’s authority.
• Always has a false agenda. She can’t do something out of the kindness of her heart; she does something with the expectation of getting something in return.
• Will use tears as a means of manipulation.
• Co-dependent. Jezebel needs someone with the spirit of Ahab in order for her to be successful. That is why we have this demonic agenda to emasculate the man. Jezebel has to dethrone Ahab’s position for her to push her demonic agenda.
• Secretly envious of other women. (intimidated but she is not going to tell you and will display the opposite.)
• Anytime a woman constantly has other conflicts with other women Jezebel’s spirit is in the midst somewhere.
• Spiritual but not Christian.
• Flesh driven.
• Prideful, arrogant, conceded
• Wants to be on top at all cost.
• Sexually provocative.
• Doesn’t have a true father, father figure. If she does, he is more than likely another Ahab.
• Is married to a man with a position but she is really running the show. (Pastor, co-pastor, etc.)
• Wants to be needed and will create chaos in others in order to be needed.
• Controlling of her grown children.
• Prophetic is often known for her prophetic accuracy and is put in a position of authority within the church. Just because someone is prophetic doesn’t mean God sent them. Jezebel’s prophetic accuracy came from the demonic spirit of Baal.
• Has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.
• If Jezebel and Esther lived around the same time. Jezebel would hate Esther because she represents everything she is not. Esther has more power than Jezebel. To Jezebel Esther represents power and position without having to be evil and manipulative to get it.
• When you walk in the spirit of Esther (a proverbs 31 woman) you will be hated by those who have the Jezebel spirit.
Discerning the Spirit of Esther A Virtuous God Fearing, God Anointed Woman
As stated Esther is not a spirit, the spirit that she walked in was the spirit of God. She displayed characteristics a God fearing woman. In order to truly understand the spirit that she walked in we must understand Proverbs 31, which is about a virtuous woman. Virtuous means purity of heart, mind, and spirit. Virtuous means moral character, moral excellence and a righteous heart before God and others with whom she interacts with. If we are going to understand Esther’s spirit, we must consider and understand Proverbs 31. Again if we identify at least give characteristics, we know that this individual encompasses the spirit of Esther, otherwise known as a virtuous woman.
Proverbs 31:10-31Living Bible (TLB)
10 If you can find a truly good wife, she is worth more than precious gems!
11 Her husband can trust her, and she will richly satisfy his needs.
12 She will not hinder him but help him all her life.
13 She finds wool and flax and busily spins it.
14 She buys imported foods brought by ship from distant ports. 15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plans the day’s work for her servant girls.
16 She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She is energetic, a hard worker,
18 and watches for bargains. She works far into the night!
19-20 She sews for the poor and generously helps those in need. 21 She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them.
22 She also upholsters with finest tapestry; her own clothing is beautifully made—a purple gown of pure linen.
23 Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council chamber with the other civic leaders.
24 She makes belted linen garments to sell to the merchants.
25 She is a woman of strength and dignity and has no fear of old age.
26 When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule for everything she says.
27 She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household and is never lazy.
28 Her children stand and bless her; so does her husband. He praises her with these words:
29 “There are many fine women in the world, but you are the best of them all!”
30 Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn’t last, but a woman who fears and reverences God shall be greatly praised.
31 Praise her for the many fine things she does. These good deeds of hers shall bring her honor and recognition from people of importance.[a]
So she was a powerful woman, but she had the heart for and from God. She is the complete opposite of the spirit of Jezebel. Let us consider some other characteristics of Esther.
• Willing to seek out godly counsel from others.
• Has fatherly godly influence.
• Submitted to leaders that God has placed before her.
• Exhibits strength and honor.
• Honors her husband doesn’t try to overrule his authority.
• Is not self-seeking or self-serving
• Submits to God and His authority
• Advances God’s agenda not her own.
• Doesn’t give herself a title.
• Waits to be honored.
• Waits for divine instructions.
• A righteous heart
• Has standards, won’t compromise them in order to gain success
• Understands who she is in God.
• Successful by her own means, is not co-dependent. She has been favored by God.
• Because her heart is pure before God, God Himself appoints her to positions of power and authority. She never has to disrespect anyone in the process of elevation.
There is so much more that we can say about this topic. However, this blog is already long, and I must bring it to a close. I encourage you to continue to study read I Kings 18 and go on through to see Jezebel and her reign, then read the book of Esther. Compare and contrast what you see. Remember Esther was honored by God, her husband, and a nation. While Jezebel dishonored God, dishonored her husband, who also dishonored God and dishonored a nation.
Again it is not that women can’t be in positions of power, authority and dominion we must go about it God’s way and not the way of Jezebel.
Samaria M Colbert © 2017
|Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on October 3, 2017 at 9:50 AM|
Discerning The Spirit of Ahab
By Samaria M Colbert
Unfortunately in today’s society things are not always what they seem. We are living in a world where there is a spiritual undercurrent in the lives of many. There is a demonic spirit, agenda from satan himself emasculating the man and positioning the world for the spirit of Jezebel to reign supreme. Both the spirit of Ahab and Jezebel exist today. There is much teaching on the spirit of Jezebel; there is not as much teaching on the spirit of Ahab. For those who are unaware Ahab was a King, therefore, he had a position of authority, but he operates in a very passive spirit. Because of his passive spirit, a nation was almost destroyed. Ahab and Jezebel are dead, but their spirit lives today. We are seeing more and more Ahab’s and Jezebel’s in our world. This blog is about how to discern the spirit of Ahab in others. Although the spirit of Ahab does exist in women, it is not easily detected because it is a feminized spirit. However, for the sake of this blog post, we will focus on how to discern the spirit of Ahab in a man. Note an individual doesn't have to have all the symptoms or characteristics noted. If you identify at least five you know that a spirit of Ahab is present.
Symptoms/characteristics of Ahab
• A passive man
• Submitted to a controlling woman. (Often with women who has a title of Prophetess or Prophet)
• Feminized man
• Won’t lead even in conversation he expects a woman to lead.
• Ahab doesn’t speak up for his wife and children.
• Ahab is not a provider or protector. He can’t give identity because he doesn’t know his own identity. (Ahab is not a father fiqure)
• Quiet but not discerning
• No boundaries
• Intimidated by Godly men.
• Easily manipulated
• Doesn’t speak up when wronged.
• Co-dependent (can’t think for himself)
• A generational spirit (his father and grandfather's where Ahab’s.)
• Didn’t have good male role model’s growing up, didn’t have a strong father or father figure.
• Use to women taking care of him.
• Secretly suffers from anxiety and chronic fear
• Lacks leadership skills or the anointing of a leader but has a position or title of a leader.
• Is not discerning
• Doesn’t like to be confronted with the truth, when he is confronted he will easily agree to avoid conflict but never changes his behavior because his heart doesn’t change.
• Will easily put up with a controlling, manipulative woman.
• Expects a woman to take care of him.
• Is attracted to spiritual Jezebel’s but not spiritual Esther’s.
• Easily intimidated by a strong woman, while in a relationship with Jezebel (is secretly scared of her).
• May have a position, title or platform, but behind the scenes, Jezebel is running the show.
• Will sit at home sleeping while his woman works.
• Doesn’t work or can’t stay on a job for a long time.
• If single he goes from house to house with different women taking care of him.
• His mother was a Jezebel.
• His mother doesn’t see a potential wife for her son as a potential daughter but rather someone to be in competition with. His mother took care of him much longer than she should have. He is an adult child.
• Came from a single parent household.
• Fear of confrontation.
• Fear of speaking the truth.
• Fear of rejection, insecure.
• Surface conversations.
• Fear, Fear, Fear.
• Beware ladies, you can discern a Ahab when you don’t really know him like that but he starts disclosing past hurts and current complaints. He wants you to feel sorry for him, so you empathize so much that you start taking care of him. Ahab can’t make decisions on his own or figure it out so he starts talking to you.
• Ahab is passive aggressive. He can’t say what he really feels to you, he has to make sideways innuendos and comments. Ahab can’t be assertive even if it is in a respectful way.
• Ahab is a grown man with the mentality of a little boy.
• Ahab if married will be the stay at home dad while his wife works. (which is out of order by God’s standards by the way)
So How Can Ahab Get Free?
He must acknowledge his Ahab spirit before God. God will not free you from what you don’t acknowledge.
Endure the process. God will send Ahab’s through a series of test to build their spiritual muscle and make them into the individuals God has called them to be. The process is hard, gut wrenching because through every step of the way Ahab is tempted to go back to Jezebel or go back to being taken care of because that is his unhealthy coping mechanism.
Do not! Do not! Go to being in a relationship. If Ahab is single, he must remain single until the processing is done. Any relationship including friendships, and romantic relationships will turn into unhealthy codependent relationships because Ahab thrives on people taking care of him. He needs someone “stronger” than himself to lean on. Ahab must learn to lean on God and must wait for God to release divine authority to him. Ahab must find his true identity as a man of God. Anyone that Ahab finds himself in a relationship with he will take on their identity because he has no real sense of self. Ahab if your single, stay that way until God has done processing you. Ahab will force the person he is in a relationship with to lead because of his passive nature. They will eventually come to resent him because of this.
If you are married to an Ahab, it may be hard but stop pacifying Ahab. Hold him accountable. If he doesn’t get it done don’t do it for him. If Ahab refuses to work, you’re going to have to show him tough love. Do not continue to enable Ahab.
Ahab has big problems with boundaries setting boundaries and respecting boundaries, so you have to make your boundaries and expectations very clear. Again make boundaries both personal and professional very clear because Ahab lacks common sense and discernment.
Pray, Pray, Pray, Endure the Process then Keep Praying.
The Word, The Word, The Word.
Hebrews 4:12 (KJV)
12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
For scriptural reference see I Kings 18 and read your way through. Look for patterns in the relationship between Jezebel and Ahab.
Samaria M Colbert © 2017
|Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on April 2, 2017 at 6:50 PM|
|Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on February 1, 2017 at 2:40 PM|
I am not an advocate of drinking alcohol, wine or beer. However there was an old adage that when a person had some liquid courage in them, they would say whatever they wanted without fear. Getting little tipsy would lend a person to say things they wouldn’t say if they were sober. People said that with this liquid courage you would cast off all restraint and act a fool. You would then regret the next day, due to a hangover, maybe a regretful night, and some hurt feelings.
I don’t drink, I have never gotten drunk in my life. I do have some people who have been addicted to drugs and alcohol in my family and needless to say it is not a pretty sight.
Ephesians 5:18 (KJV)
18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;
Proverbs 23:20-21 (KJV)
20 Be not among winebibbers; among riotous eaters of flesh:
21 For the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty: and drowsiness shall clothe a man with rags.
God clearly is telling us according to His word we are not to get drunk or be filled with wine. I know this chapter is taking a weird turn but as always go with me, believe it or not we are going somewhere.
My point is there was a time that the only people who said what they wanted, how they wanted, to whom they wanted to, without restraint were people drunk with wine, or people who had anger management problems. Neither of that is a positive.
Now we have blood washed, bible believing Christians who believe that can say whatever they want, disrespect leaders, presidents, and officials in authority without regard or a care. All due to the invent of social media.
Now you don’t need liquid courage, to be arrogant, prideful, or just plain rude and extremely disrespectful, all you need is an open lap top an unrestrained mouth and typing hands that devises evil.
Yep this chapter in case you haven’t already guest it, will hit hard but it will save your life, your business, your relationship, and your ministry. God will still hold us accountable for what we say and what we type. And yes this has very much to do with doing business God’s way.
Matthew 12:37 (KJV)
37 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.
Matthew 12:36 (KJV)
36 But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.
This will make sense in a minute. I want you to understand that when you are in business, you sit in a position of authority. There is certain respect that we must have for anyone who sits in this seat of authority whether you agree with them or not. It doesn’t mean you compromise or don’t speak up, there is a way to speak to authority as found in scripture.
I want you to understand every act, word, deed that you do against someone seated in this position of authority is a reflection on you. What that means is every arrow you sling towards someone else, will release that same curse back to you ten times greater. When you make yourself a weapon against someone’s seat of authority, God then releases that same curse back to you?
What you reap to others, you will reap yourself. This is important because as a business leader you must handle other people correctly. Many people get it when it comes to handling people correctly that they lead, what they don’t get is how you treat people who are in positions of authority over them, will be a reflection of you and whether or not you succeed or fail. It will either contribute to your blessing or your demise, whether you know them or not. It really doesn’t matter whether or not you agree with them. No they are not unapproachable or without reproach.
Remember scripture says whatever idle world spoken you will give account. Idle means empty, void, worthless.
When you disrespect another leader, God will in turn make sure you are disrespected to a greater degree, it also shows that you have a wrong spirit that needs deliverance. I can prove it by scripture.
2 Peter 2:10-11 (TLB)
10 He is especially hard on those who follow their own evil, lustful thoughts, and those who are proud and willful, daring even to scoff at the Glorious Ones[a] without so much as trembling,
11 although the angels in heaven who stand in the very presence of the Lord, and are far greater in power and strength than these false teachers, never speak out disrespectfully against these evil Mighty Ones.
To clarify I am going to put this scripture in a different translation.
2 Peter 2:10-11 (KJV)
10 But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness, and despise government. Presumptuous are they, self-willed, they are not afraid to speak evil of dignities.
11 Whereas angels, which are greater in power and might, bring not railing accusation against them before the Lord.
2 Peter 2:10-14 (MSG)
10-11 God is especially incensed against these “teachers” who live by lust, addicted to a filthy existence. They despise interference from true authority, preferring to indulge in self-rule. Insolent egotists, they don’t hesitate to speak evil against the most splendid of creatures. Even angels, their superiors in every way, wouldn’t think of throwing their weight around like that, trying to slander others before God.
12-14 These people are nothing but brute beasts, born in the wild, predators on the prowl. In the very act of bringing down others with their ignorant blasphemies, they themselves will be brought down, losers in the end. Their evil will boomerang on them.
Presumptuous means full of, characterized by, or showing presumption or readiness to presume in conduct or thought, as by saying or doing something without right or permission. It also means unwarrantedly or impertinently bold; forward. Impertinent means not showing proper respect; rude. Mean they are without restraint rude, disrespectful and bold, directly at dignitaries. Dignitaries are people put in positions of authority, a high rank of office, or important position.
Let us go back to the scripture.
The word is telling us that ungodly people will walk in the flesh, meaning they say whatever their flesh tells them to. They are unclean, they despise the government, are self-willed (doing whatever they want to do and say) and they are not afraid to speak negatively about someone with boldness.
We are going someone where. Dishonor is setting yourself up for a curse. Verse 11 tells that that angels who have higher might and power know the wisdom against not making accusations or rude statements against someone in authority.
The bible calls people like this false teachers. Scripture calls out the people bragging, talking against officials. When they don’t understand something they speak against it.
2 Peter 2:12 (KJV)
12 But these, as natural brute beasts, made to be taken and destroyed, speak evil of the things that they understand not; and shall utterly perish in their own corruption;
2 Peter 3:3 (KJV)
3 Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts,
Scoff means speak to someone or about something in a scornfully derisive or mocking way.
Jude 9-11The Message (MSG)
9-11 The Archangel Michael, who went to the mat with the Devil as they fought over the body of Moses, wouldn’t have dared level him with a blasphemous curse, but said simply, “No you don’t. God will take care of you!” But these people sneer at anything they can’t understand, and by doing whatever they feel like doing—living by animal instinct only—they participate in their own destruction
Jude 9-11 (KJV)
9 Yet Michael the archangel, when contending with the devil he disputed about the body of Moses, durst not bring against him a railing accusation, but said, The Lord rebuke thee.
10 But these speak evil of those things which they know not: but what they know naturally, as brute beasts, in those things they corrupt themselves.
11 Woe unto them! for they have gone in the way of Cain, and ran greedily after the error of Balaam for reward, and perished in the gainsaying of Core.
When someone is in a position of authority there is a level of respect and dignity that comes with the position.
Let me give you an example of how this is important to you.
I remember years ago the church I was attending went through a church split. I felt some kind of way about it and was very hurt at my pastors. I remember a friend from my hometown called me and I ended up venting about what I felt was wrong.
The next thing you know all chaos broke loose in my life. I mean I had a curse released over my head. I remember crying out in anguish asking God what happened. He reminded of that phone call I had with my friend.
Mind you what I said wasn’t wrong, my estimation of how I thought things went and should happen was according to the word of God. I was venting, to her. God didn’t tell me what I said was wrong, He told me speaking against them was wrong, I shouldn’t have done that.
I had to repent. I am going to show you in scripture how you can still represent the mouth piece of God and be respectful, yes we are still going to talk about social media.
Another time I had a friend, who is no longer a friend. She had her own ministry. She would often speak against leaders in other churches, what she felt they did wrong, and such, I mean it was an ongoing thing.
The Holy Spirit was offended. Every time I was around her I began to feel very convicted and grieved of Him. I knew the Lord was telling me to disconnect for this reason. I didn’t want to because I am a young person just like everyone else. I wanted friends and enjoyed the fun times, it wasn’t all bad.
I remember being so convicted, I finally decided to just disconnect. I remember after making that decision, I went to church that night, and my then pastor began to speak about this very topic. I knew I had heard from God.
When a person continues to speak against another, they were despising authority, they are ignorant of satan’s devices, they are pretentious, and don’t understand that they are releasing curses into their own lives. They are secretly contentious of someone else’s authority. Meaning they are jealous and envious of someone else’s position of authority.
Psalm 105:15 (TLB)
15 “Touch not these chosen ones of mine,” he warned, “and do not hurt my prophets.”
1 Chronicles 16:22 (KJV)
22 Saying, Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm.
There is a way to respond to leaders in positions of authority even when they are wrong. David was a prime example. Saul was coming after him trying to kill David, multiple times. David never responded with disrespect or contentiousness, he honored Saul until his death. Even though Saul was dead wrong and acting outside of the will of God. David had an opportunity multiple times to kill Saul, but he didn’t. Look what David said, to Saul, after he didn’t kill him when he could have.
1 Samuel 24:3-12Living Bible (TLB)
3 At the place where the road passes some sheepfolds, Saul went into a cave to go to the bathroom, but as it happened, David and his men were hiding in the cave!
4 “Now’s your time!” David’s men whispered to him. “Today is the day the Lord was talking about when he said, ‘I will certainly put Saul into your power, to do with as you wish’!” Then David crept forward and quietly slit off the bottom of Saul’s robe!
5 But then his conscience began bothering him.
6 “I shouldn’t have done it,” he said to his men. “It is a serious sin to attack God’s chosen king in any way.”
7-8 These words of David persuaded his men not to kill Saul.
After Saul had left the cave and gone on his way, David came out and shouted after him, “My lord the king!” And when Saul looked around, David bowed low before him.
9-10 Then he shouted to Saul, “Why do you listen to the people who say I am trying to harm you? This very day you have seen it isn’t true. For the Lord placed you at my mercy back there in the cave, and some of my men told me to kill you, but I spared you. For I said, ‘I will never harm him—he is the Lord’s chosen king.’
11 See what I have in my hand? It is the hem of your robe! I cut it off, but I didn’t kill you! Doesn’t this convince you that I am not trying to harm you and that I have not sinned against you, even though you have been hunting for my life?
12 “The Lord will decide between us. Perhaps he will kill you for what you are trying to do to me, but I will never harm you.
Again Saul was actively in pursuit of trying to kill David, he basically stops and uses the bathroom. David’s men tell him to go ahead and do it, “this must be God’s will.” David didn’t kill the man that is trying to kill him, but falls down to his feet and apologizes for cutting a piece of his robe off. Hello! Someone is trying to kill you and you repent for cutting a piece of clothes. Now that is nothing but the spirit of God in David.
Look what happens next.
1 Samuel 24:15-22Living Bible (TLB)
15 May the Lord judge as to which of us is right and punish whichever one of us is guilty. He is my lawyer and defender, and he will rescue me from your power!”
16 Saul called back, “Is it really you, my son David?” Then he began to cry.
17 And he said to David, “You are a better man than I am, for you have repaid me good for evil.
18 Yes, you have been wonderfully kind to me today, for when the Lord delivered me into your hand, you didn’t kill me.
19 Who else in all the world would let his enemy get away when he had him in his power? May the Lord reward you well for the kindness you have shown me today.
20 And now I realize that you are surely going to be king, and Israel shall be yours to rule.
21 Oh, swear to me by the Lord that when that happens you will not kill my family and destroy my line of descendants!”
22 So David promised, and Saul went home, but David and his men went back to their cave.
By the way Saul didn’t keep his word, he went right back to trying to kill David even after David showed him tremendous mercy. David kept his word and didn't try to kill Saul.
A great example was in the life of Joseph and Daniel. Joseph was accused of rape but never disrespected the authorities of his time.
Daniel was in a time when the king was corrupt. God used Daniel to go to the kings chamber and speak the whole counsel of God. He spoke the truth, in love, interpreted dreams and visions, but was never disrespectful in anyway, even though as stated he was thrown in a lions den, in a fiery furnace, great injustice happened to Daniel, and he never disrespected the man who was responsible for it. Yet he spoke the truth, always giving glory and honor to God first.
Daniel was such a witness of God, that his obedience and humility led the king honor God, before a nation.
So how does this relate to social media?
I am glad you asked, because I am going to show you how Christians are releasing curses onto themselves constantly speaking against each other, government officials, the president, other ministers. You are the initiator of your own demise.
Let’s say a great leader within the church has been found to have been laundering money at large amounts. There it is live on CNN, CBC, Fox News you name it. A great pastor taken in hand cuffs, to the local police station. By the way this is a fictional story.
You are so angry. Then you get on social media and begin to talk bad about the church, this pastor, his associates, with the hash tag, money hungry preachers.
Were you wrong to feel angry? No. You still just released a curse into you own life. Why? You are disrespecting someone in a the position of authority. So how should you respond? Prayer. Don’t put your mouth on anyone. Don’t type it on Facebook either.
Proverbs 21:1 (KJV)
21 The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will.
What will happen to you? In your business you will experience the same curse and God will remind you of the idol words you spoke and typed against someone else. It could be an accounting error in your company. It could be that you have someone laundering money from your company and you had no idea.
The point is when you so discord amongst the body of Christ it will come back to you. God will deal with the leader if it is true.
Other examples, your favorite celebrity gains a few pounds, so you use social media to post unflattering pictures about them, making jokes. Well you reap what you sow.
Galatians 6:7 (KJV)
7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
Let us look at another example; there is controversy regarding your favorite gospel singer, so you take it to social media.
Guess what you are going to reap.
Another example the highest governmental office in the United States, is occupied by someone you think is an absolute disgrace. He appears to be highly unqualified, and pretentious. So you don’t think to remotely pray for him that God would turn his heart towards Him. No what you do is, every chance you get you post something that is downright derogatory about him.
I am not say you are wrong to feel how you feel. I am not saying I am a supporter. Nevertheless this person is in a seat of authority. You can either be like Daniel, Joseph, the other prophets in the bible or you can be cursed. You decide.
I know some of you are not going to agree with this chapter, but I promise you I could care less. We Christians need to act like Christians when it is hard, not just when it is convenient and things go our way.
You want to curse yourself that is your business, I am just telling you what the word says.
Another example you think a big time televangelist is an outright fraud. So you go on Facebook live to hold a big teleconference about how wrong you think he or she is.
Just go one ahead and point to yourself, and say, “cursed.” Because that is what is going to happen. Remember our scripture that we read in the beginning of this chapter.
Proverbs 6:16-19 (KJV)
16 These six things doth the Lord hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:
17 A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,
18 An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,
19 A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.
Why do we love something that God hates?
No you are not in position to question someone else’s position of authority just because you are seated in the same position or similar position of authority. There is no scriptural basis for that. Does that mean God doesn’t send a person to correct or admonish or direct? No.
Luke 17:3 (KJV)
3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
1 Timothy 5:20 (KJV)
20 Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
Still when you read the bible the prophet was always sent to a king, or priest. God would send the prophet. Man didn’t just send himself. The prophet responded in the most tactful way possible.
Matthew 18:15-17 (KJV)
15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
Galatians 6:1-3 (KJV)
6 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.
2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.
3 For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself.
2 Thessalonians 3:14(KJV)
14 And if any man obey not our word by this epistle, note that man, and have no company with him, that he may be ashamed.
I am not suggesting that you be a passive Christian and never say anything about injustice. I am suggesting that you be led by the Holy Spirit. These people acting as social media bullies are not being led by the spirit, in fact the tone and spirit in which they write breeds, jealously, envious, a spirit of competition, and they are doing what God hates, spreading discord (division) among Christian brethren.
Inevitably if you are a business owner you cannot avoid social media. If it was up to me, I would do away with social media all together, but the problem is I would like to actually sell books. I need my websites, facebooks etc.
Yet there are still rules to remain in integrity and good character.
The final will be a list of strategies and ethics. We have already talked in detail about principles.
Strategies and Ethics:
They are in no particular order.
1. Don’t use any social media account to sow discord, sow rumors, gossip, hatred to another organization, minister, persons in authority. Pray.
2. If you cannot tell it to someone’s face with the same level of sarcasm, and tone then you probably shouldn’t say it. You are more than likely not being led by the Holy Spirit
3. Stick to the facts, no false advertisement. Don’t hype yourself up beyond where and who you are. You are not a worldwide singing sensation, just because you can sing, and you have a website that technically can be accessed in different nations.
4. Facebook is not your therapist. If it sounds like something you should be processing through in a private confidential, place, it probably shouldn’t be posted on social media.
5. Remember listen before you speak, or in this case READ, before you type, and hit that post button.
6. There is a such thing as too much sharing. We really don’t want to know what you ate last night, your breakfast, pictures we don’t need to be included when you’re hungry and every little detail about your life.
7. Just like in life we consider a person just plain obnoxious, and annoying when they keep talking about themselves, so it goes with social media.
8. Make it about your business, your product etc.
9. There is a log out, unsubscribe, block button attached to your social media accounts, please feel free to use them.
10. Lastly as my pastor says, “when you are great, everyone shouldn’t have access to you.” Just because you are on social media doesn’t mean people have 24 hour access to you.
11. Don’t go back and forth with anyone on social media.
12. Don’t take it personal, your insecurities will show.
13. Remember the sound bite is dangerous. You most likely don’t have all the information about someone you have a sound bite. Don’t fall victim, or prey to the deception of the sound bite.
Samaria M Colbert © 2017