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The Spirit of Jezebel Versus The Spirit of Esther (A Proverbs 31 Woman)

Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on October 9, 2017 at 2:05 PM

The Spirit of Jezebel Versus The Spirit of Esther (A Proverbs 31 Woman)

By: Samaria M Colbert

As promised this blog is a follow up to the previous blog where I talked about the spirit of Ahab. As stated it is a demonic agenda sent by satan himself to emasculate the man. Emasculate means deprive (a man) of his male role or identity. We see this subtle demonic attack in our world in a greater way. Unfortunately, many Christians have fallen prey to the demonic agenda because we have a many Christians who are carnal, fleshly driven. Whenever an individual is carnally driven, they cannot see or perceive the things of the spirit. They certainly cannot see the plan or agenda of the enemy, because his success is based up the spirit of delusion and deception. Just because it looks right, doesn’t mean it is right.

The demonic agenda that is infiltering our world is coming in the form of the feminist agenda. The feminist agenda appears to be about fighting for women’s rights, and equality. Sounds great right? Well if you study further and look at the principles of the perspective it really is based on the spirit of Jezebel. Don’t get me wrong I am not against a women being in positions of power and authority. I am a woman who is very much empowered in ministry, entrepreneurship, and life. We cannot deny the demonic agenda of satan.

God wants and expects women to operate in power, authority, dominion, in ministry, business, and in every area of our lives. However, He never created us to be in competition with a man. He never created us to emasculate them so that we can be in charge.

This is why I write this blog. There is difference between the spirit of Jezebel (feminist agenda) versus a woman who walks in authority designated by the spirit of God. To truly understand this we must understand the difference between Queen Jezebel, and Queen Esther. Esther is not a spirit she was a woman who walked in God's authority. The spirit she walked in was that of a virtuous woman as found in Proverbs 31.

In order for us to get clarity, we must understand the difference between the Jezebel spirit (Queen Jezebel) versus Queen Esther (Proverbs 31). This blog proves that a woman can be in a position of power, authority, kingdom minded while being covered, ordained and sent from God. We have to know the difference, so we are aware of the differences in the demonic agenda versus the Kingdom of God's agenda.


• Both were married to Kings. Esther was married to King Ahasuerus. Jezebelwas married to King Ahab.

• Both had positions of power and authority

• Both had the kings heart.

• Both were beautiful

• Both were leaders

• Both were prophetic

• Both had the power to make decisions

• Both had power and influence

• Both were very intelligent


• Jezebel almost destroyed a nation. Esther saved a nation.

• Jezebel sought power by any means necessary. Esther never sought power but was put in a position of power by God.

Esther 4:14 (KJV)

14 For if thou altogether holdest thy peace at this time, then shall there enlargement and deliverance arise to the Jews from another place; but thou and thy father's house shall be destroyed: and who knoweth whether thou art come to the kingdom for such a time as this?

• Jezebel was controlling and manipulative.

• Esther was the complete opposite not controlling, not manipulative, quiet, discerning and kind. Esther was a humble woman.

• Esther was honored by God. God despised Jezebel because of her actions.

• Esther was submitted to her leaders including her adoptive father, and husband.

• Jezebel was unsubmitted, she usurped (to take, seize, disregard) her husband’s authority for her own agenda.

• Esther respected her husband’s authority, and didn’t have her own agenda, but had an agenda for God’s kingdom to be saved.

• Jezebel worshipped and served false idols (Baal)

• Esther  worshipped and served God.

• Jezebel never sought counsel from others. She only sought other false prophets who would help to advance her demonic agenda.

• Esther sought wise counsel from godly fatherly leaders such as her Uncle Mordecai who was a godly man who honored God with his life.

• Jezebel's father was an idol worshiper.

There is so much more that we can say about their difference. My point is God never made any assumptions that women can’t be powerful, be positions of authority, and influence. If we are going to be women who advance God’s kingdom, are used powerfully to save our nation and our world, we must renounce this feminist agenda (Jezebel’s agenda really) and embrace Esther’s spirit (spirit of the Proverbs 31 woman). Again God wants us to be powerful beyond belief. He doesn’t want us to play politics, disrespect the authority of a man, or leaders, be manipulative or controlling for our own agenda. The remainder of the blog is how to identify the agenda/spirit of Jezebel versus and how to identify the agenda/spirit of Esther. If you want to be honored by God, we must see through the eyes of Esther.

Identifying the Jezebel Spirit in Others

Note you don’t have to have all identified, but if you identify at least of five the traits noted, we know that you struggle with a spirit of Jezebel. Note the Jezebel spirit can be found in both men and women.

• Embraces false god’s, goddesses, African spiritualist, ancient beliefs, tarot cards, psychic mediums, light work.

• Is spiritual but doesn’t identify herself as a Christian. Or if she does identify herself as a Christian she still all the while embraces other spiritual beliefs that are outside of the realm of Christ.

• Difficulty in relationships with men.

• May have been married multiple times.

• Difficulty submitting.

• Calls herself a prophet, a prophetess. If she isn’t embraced or put in a leadership position in the church, she will leave start her own church and give herself a title of prophet, prophetess, apostle and or bishop.

• Controlling

• Manipulative

• Unsubmitted

• Plays psychological games to get you or her husband to give her what she wants. She can cry fake tears at the drop of a dime.

• Sexually perverted.

• Embraces LGBT movement.

• Jezebel secretly suffers from church hurt; she was rejected by the church whether it was warranted or not. Because she is secretly hurt whenever something happens in our world whether it be a natural disaster, political unrest, crime, scandal she uses use facebook and social media as a means to subtly, attack the church, Christians, Christian leaders and its members.

• Because of her leadership capability, she is often put in positions of leadership within the church.

• Starts her own church and slowly begins to put seeds of discord in the hearts of others towards their leaders with the agenda of getting people to embrace her and her movement.

• Her ministry is not really about advancing the kingdom of God; rather it is about highlighting her and her own importance.

Calls herself a “spiritual father” to others. ( Contrary to populate belief a spiritual mother is NOT the same as a spiritual father but both of them have their place within the kingdom of God. A woman is NOT a spiritual Father, NEITHER is a man a spiritual mother. These are two separate but needed positions of authority within the body of Christ. A woman cannot be a spiritual father. A man cannot be spiritual mother.

• Has blatant disregard for the rights of others.

• Secretly jealous and envious of others position of authority particular of another man’s authority.

• Always has a false agenda. She can’t do something out of the kindness of her heart; she does something with the expectation of getting something in return.

• Will use tears as a means of manipulation.

• Co-dependent. Jezebel needs someone with the spirit of Ahab in order for her to be successful. That is why we have this demonic agenda to emasculate the man. Jezebel has to dethrone Ahab’s position for her to push her demonic agenda.

• Secretly envious of other women. (intimidated but she is not going to tell you and will display the opposite.)

• Anytime a woman constantly has other conflicts with other women Jezebel’s spirit is in the midst somewhere.

• Insecure

• Spiritual but not Christian.

• Flesh driven.

• Prideful, arrogant, conceded

• Wants to be on top at all cost.

• Sexually provocative.

• Doesn’t have a true father, father figure. If she does, he is more than likely another Ahab.

• Is married to a man with a position but she is really running the show. (Pastor, co-pastor, etc.)

• Wants to be needed and will create chaos in others in order to be needed.

• Controlling of her grown children.

• Prophetic is often known for her prophetic accuracy and is put in a position of authority within the church. Just because someone is prophetic doesn’t mean God sent them. Jezebel’s prophetic accuracy came from the demonic spirit of Baal.

• Has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.

• If Jezebel and Esther lived around the same time. Jezebel would hate Esther because she represents everything she is not. Esther has more power than Jezebel. To Jezebel Esther represents power and position without having to be evil and manipulative to get it.

• When you walk in the spirit of Esther (a proverbs 31 woman) you will be hated by those who have the Jezebel spirit.

Discerning the Spirit of Esther A Virtuous God Fearing, God Anointed Woman

As stated Esther is not a spirit, the spirit that she walked in was the spirit of God. She displayed characteristics a God fearing woman. In order to truly understand the spirit that she walked in we must understand Proverbs 31, which is about a virtuous woman. Virtuous means purity of heart, mind, and spirit. Virtuous means moral character, moral excellence and a righteous heart before God and others with whom she interacts with. If we are going to understand Esther’s spirit, we must consider and understand Proverbs 31. Again if we identify at least give characteristics, we know that this individual encompasses the spirit of Esther, otherwise known as a virtuous woman.

Proverbs 31:10-31Living Bible (TLB)

10 If you can find a truly good wife, she is worth more than precious gems!

11 Her husband can trust her, and she will richly satisfy his needs.

12 She will not hinder him but help him all her life.

13 She finds wool and flax and busily spins it.

14 She buys imported foods brought by ship from distant ports. 15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plans the day’s work for her servant girls.

16 She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard.

17 She is energetic, a hard worker,

18 and watches for bargains. She works far into the night!

19-20 She sews for the poor and generously helps those in need. 21 She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them.

22 She also upholsters with finest tapestry; her own clothing is beautifully made—a purple gown of pure linen.

23 Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council chamber with the other civic leaders.

24 She makes belted linen garments to sell to the merchants.

25 She is a woman of strength and dignity and has no fear of old age.

26 When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule for everything she says.

27 She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household and is never lazy.

28 Her children stand and bless her; so does her husband. He praises her with these words:

29 “There are many fine women in the world, but you are the best of them all!”

30 Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn’t last, but a woman who fears and reverences God shall be greatly praised.

31 Praise her for the many fine things she does. These good deeds of hers shall bring her honor and recognition from people of importance.[a]

So she was a powerful woman, but she had the heart for and from God. She is the complete opposite of the spirit of Jezebel. Let us consider some other characteristics of Esther.

Esther’s Spirit

• Willing to seek out godly counsel from others.

• Has fatherly godly influence.

• Submitted to leaders that God has placed before her.

• Kind

• Caring

• Nurturing

• Exhibits strength and honor.

• Honors her husband doesn’t try to overrule his authority.

• Is not self-seeking or self-serving

• Humility

• Humility

• Humility

• Respectful

• Modest

• Submits to God and His authority

• Advances God’s agenda not her own.

• Doesn’t give herself a title.

• Waits to be honored.

• Waits for divine instructions.

• A righteous heart

• Confident

• Has standards, won’t compromise them in order to gain success

• Understands who she is in God.

• Successful by her own means, is not co-dependent. She has been favored by God.

• Because her heart is pure before God, God Himself appoints her to positions of power and authority. She never has to disrespect anyone in the process of elevation.

There is so much more that we can say about this topic. However, this blog is already long, and I must bring it to a close. I encourage you to continue to study read I Kings 18 and go on through to see Jezebel and her reign, then read the book of Esther. Compare and contrast what you see. Remember Esther was honored by God, her husband, and a nation. While Jezebel dishonored God, dishonored her husband, who also dishonored God and dishonored a nation.

Again it is not that women can’t be in positions of power, authority and dominion we must go about it God’s way and not the way of Jezebel.

Samaria M Colbert © 2017

Discerning The Spirit Of Ahab

Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on October 3, 2017 at 9:50 AM

Discerning The Spirit of Ahab

By Samaria M Colbert

Unfortunately in today’s society things are not always what they seem. We are living in a world where there is a spiritual undercurrent in the lives of many. There is a demonic spirit, agenda from satan himself emasculating the man and positioning the world for the spirit of Jezebel to reign supreme. Both the spirit of Ahab and Jezebel exist today. There is much teaching on the spirit of Jezebel; there is not as much teaching on the spirit of Ahab. For those who are unaware Ahab was a King, therefore, he had a position of authority, but he operates in a very passive spirit. Because of his passive spirit, a nation was almost destroyed. Ahab and Jezebel are dead, but their spirit lives today. We are seeing more and more Ahab’s and Jezebel’s in our world. This blog is about how to discern the spirit of Ahab in others. Although the spirit of Ahab does exist in women, it is not easily detected because it is a feminized spirit. However, for the sake of this blog post, we will focus on how to discern the spirit of Ahab in a man. Note an individual doesn't have to have all the symptoms or characteristics noted. If you identify at least five you know that a spirit of Ahab is present.

Symptoms/characteristics of Ahab

• A passive man

• Submitted to a controlling woman. (Often with women who has a title of Prophetess or Prophet)

• Feminized man

• Won’t lead even in conversation he expects a woman to lead.

• Ahab doesn’t speak up for his wife and children.

• Ahab is not a provider or protector. He can’t give identity because he doesn’t know his own identity. (Ahab is not a father fiqure)

• Compromising

• Quiet but not discerning

• No boundaries

• Intimidated by  Godly men.

• Easily manipulated

• Doesn’t speak up when wronged.

• Co-dependent (can’t think for himself)

• A generational spirit (his father and grandfather's where Ahab’s.)

• Didn’t have good male role model’s growing up, didn’t have a strong father or father figure. 

• Use to women taking care of him.

• Secretly suffers from anxiety and chronic fear

• Lacks leadership skills or the anointing of a leader but has a position or title of a leader.

• Is not discerning

• Doesn’t like to be confronted with the truth, when he is confronted he will easily agree to avoid conflict but never changes his behavior because his heart doesn’t change.

• Will easily put up with a controlling, manipulative woman.

• Expects a woman to take care of him.

• Is attracted to spiritual Jezebel’s but not spiritual Esther’s.

• Easily intimidated by a strong woman, while in a relationship with Jezebel (is secretly scared of her).

• May have a position, title or platform, but behind the scenes, Jezebel is running the show.

• Will sit at home sleeping while his woman works.

• Doesn’t work or can’t stay on a job for a long time.

• If single he goes from house to house with different women taking care of him.

• His mother was a Jezebel.

• His mother doesn’t see a potential wife for her son as a potential daughter but rather someone to be in competition with. His mother took care of him much longer than she should have. He is an adult child.

• Came from a single parent household.

• Fear of confrontation.

• Fear of speaking the truth.

• Fear of rejection, insecure.

• Surface conversations.

• Fear, Fear, Fear.

• Beware ladies, you can discern a Ahab when you don’t really know him like that but he starts disclosing past hurts and current complaints. He wants you to feel sorry for him, so you empathize so much that you start taking care of him. Ahab can’t make decisions on his own or figure it out so he starts talking to you.

• Ahab is passive aggressive. He can’t say what he really feels to you, he has to make sideways innuendos and comments. Ahab can’t be assertive even if it is in a respectful way.

• Ahab is a grown man with the mentality of a little boy.

• Ahab if married will be the stay at home dad while his wife works. (which is out of order by God’s standards by the way)

So How Can Ahab Get Free?

He must acknowledge his Ahab spirit before God. God will not free you from what you don’t acknowledge.

Endure the process. God will send Ahab’s through a series of test to build their spiritual muscle and make them into the individuals God has called them to be. The process is hard, gut wrenching because through every step of the way Ahab is tempted to go back to Jezebel or go back to being taken care of because that is his unhealthy coping mechanism.

Do not! Do not! Go to being in a relationship. If Ahab is single, he must remain single until the processing is done. Any relationship including friendships, and romantic relationships will turn into unhealthy codependent relationships because Ahab thrives on people taking care of him. He needs someone “stronger” than himself to lean on. Ahab must learn to lean on God and must wait for God to release divine authority to him. Ahab must find his true identity as a man of God. Anyone that Ahab finds himself in a relationship with he will take on their identity because he has no real sense of self. Ahab if your single, stay that way until God has done processing you. Ahab will force the person he is in a relationship with to lead because of his passive nature. They will eventually come to resent him because of this.

If you are married to an Ahab, it may be hard but stop pacifying Ahab. Hold him accountable. If he doesn’t get it done don’t do it for him. If Ahab refuses to work, you’re going to have to show him tough love. Do not continue to enable Ahab.

Ahab has big problems with boundaries setting boundaries and respecting boundaries, so you have to make your boundaries and expectations very clear. Again make boundaries both personal and professional very clear because Ahab lacks common sense and discernment.

Pray, Pray, Pray, Endure the Process then Keep Praying.

The Word, The Word, The Word.

Hebrews 4:12 (KJV)

12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

For scriptural reference see I Kings 18 and read your way through. Look for patterns in the relationship between Jezebel and Ahab.

Samaria M Colbert © 2017

Did Apostle Paul Really Oppress Women? Confronting False Ideology

Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on April 2, 2017 at 6:50 PM

Did Apostle Paul Really Oppress Women? Confronting False Ideology.

By: Samaria M Colbert

Doctrine is a belief or set of beliefs held and taught by a church, political party, or another group. Theology is the study of the nature of God and religious belief.

Religious beliefs and theory when systematically developed can create confusion and false doctrinal beliefs.

Tiffany was a young impressionable young woman. She wasn’t raised in a Christian home. One day at the age of fifteen, she decided to visit the Hope of Glory non-denominational church. The church was right across the street from her home. She often would wonder about the people walking in and out. Curiosity got the best of her, and she visited. Tiffany loved it. The youth were on fire for God. She got saved and quickly got involved in volunteering in ministry. After completing high school, Tiffany got accepted into a local women’s college in Texas. There were not a lot of churches in the part of Texas where her college was, but Tiffany wanted to continue growing in her relationship with God. Tiffany went to visit a local church around the corner from her school. The first day she walked into the church it felt odd. Everyone looked at her strange. The women had long dresses that hit the floor. Although Tiffany didn’t wear much makeup, she did have on lipstick that was colored. Before she could get a seat, the usher handed her a wipe and told her to wipe her face. Tiffany thought maybe the woman was crazy or that she had something on her face. Out of respect, Tiffany wiped the lipstick off. Then another woman she was sitting next to, didn’t even speak. She just pointed at her finger nails which were neatly polished and shook her head as to say no. As was the praise team sang, it was just mediocre at best. Tiffany understood why everyone who wants to sing, shouldn’t be allowed on the praise team. The singing felt as if they had no life in it, it was like God hadn’t visited this place in a long time. The pastor gets up and preaches an entire message on the sins of women. He talked about how a women’s place was at home raising kids. He talked about how women shouldn’t work. Tiffany understood why none of her classmates wanted to visit the church with her, she initially thought because they were not Christian, but now she saw the truth. Then the pastor talks about how women shouldn’t be allowed to preach behind anyone’s pulpit and how that was a sin before God. The ironic thing that she notices was that none of the other women were offended by what the pastor said. These women would stand up and holler, “Amen pastor, you are preaching the truth.” Tiffany was floored.

Tiffany out of respect stayed the entire service. When it was time to leave, the lady next to her told her to come back next Sunday but cautioned her to leave the makeup, nail polish and pants at home. Tiffany gave the woman a smile and left. She knew that as long as she was alive and breathing, she would never return to that church again.

Tiffany did end up attending a great church that was about thirty miles up the road. They had a transportation ministry and would pick up her and her classmates each Sunday for service and bible study.

Tiffany didn’t allow herself to be beguiled. These church members were beguiled, but how? It is simple, false doctrine, and false theology. They took the scripture out of context.

Scripture clearly tells us that women can do ministry.

Joel 2:28 (KJV)

28 And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, your young men shall see visions:

God doesn’t pour out His spirit on empty vessels that He intends to use for nothing. No offense to any wife and mother. Still, there is more to a woman than being a wife and mother. No, I am not a feminist and will actively denounce feminist ideology until the day I die. I have proved the falsehood of false ideology in a book I wrote called, Worth The Wait.

Although Tiffany was not beguiled, those church members were. How? People are often beguiled by false teachers, who teach false doctrine, and incorrect theology.

I know something about a church like this because I was raised in one. We did have women preachers, however, when I was a kid the church couldn’t wear makeup or jewelry. Skirts had to be a certain length, which meant it had to hit the ankles. A woman couldn’t wear a wedding band from her husband. If we had a visitor who wore makeup, they would get unwelcome stares. If a person decided to join the church, they couldn’t do so without putting their jewelry away for good. I remember hearing the stories. I am reminded when I was a little girl I heard the story from an elderly woman. She said as soon as she got saved she through her jewelry away and threw her wedding band aside.

We equated salvation to not wearing makeup or jewelry. Meaning, you wore makeup or jewelry we considered you not saved.

Ironically the bible doesn’t say that a woman can’t wear jewelry, it says she is to be modest. Meaning don't go out your house looking crazy. I still believe that makeup should enhance your beauty not transform you into a different person. Meaning, if you are African American, your face should not be so beat, that by the time you leave you to house you look like a completely different race. I am not against hair weaves and such, but if everything about you is fake, then something is wrong. Fake hair, fake nails, fake boobs, fake eye color. In my opinion that is not being modest. Though it is not a sin to be fake, it is just a bit inappropriate for me. When I meet my husband, I don’t want him to be afraid when I take myself off at the end of the day.

You have to understand that during the Bible times, what was considered fashionably modest is very different from today.

1 Timothy 2:9-10Living Bible (TLB)

9-10 And the women should be the same way, quiet and sensible in manner and clothing. Christian women should be noticed for being kind and good, not for the way they fix their hair or because of their jewels or fancy clothes.

Sensible means wise, modest, not too much. The scripture doesn’t say no matter the version, which women can’t wear makeup. In fact, let me put the same scripture in the King James Version.

1 Timothy 2:9King James Version (KJV)

9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;

Shamefacedness means show restraint, or modest. Meaning, your makeup should not be loud. The scripture doesn’t say you shouldn’t wear gold, pearls but be modest about it. If you have the means, don’t have your entire arm full of expensive gold. Don’t wear your entire treasure. There is a long time trend amongst celebrities where they wear million dollar engagement rings, again to each is his own. But don’t let your adornment be so huge that it becomes obnoxious.

Then there is the infamous scripture where Paul had said he didn’t permit women to speak. The key word is here that Paul said what he didn’t allow, he didn’t say it wasn’t allowable. 2 Corinthians 14: 34-35 He was telling you how he did things.

You have to understand the historical context of which he writes. First, he was speaking to a bunch of new converts. Corinth was a city in Greece. If you know anything about that time idol worship and sin of every kind was prominent. The church was made up of ex-pagans, ex-prostitute, women who had been very sexually lude and idol worshippers. Pagan means they were religious in their worship of idols. In worship ceremonies, the women were prostitutes and connected to the Aphrodite (goddess of love). So immortality was blatant and prominent throughout the entire city. Prostitutes were prominent and fair game. Meaning, they had no shame in their game. The women were very sexually explicit and all out there if you know what I mean.

So with Paul’s ministry, the people are converted, their hearts changed. I had a client years ago, who said, that once you get saved, your heart changes immediately, your actions don’t. Because these women were so openly engaged in such immoral living, it affected every area of their lives, including how they dressed.

Have you ever been around a new convert, even though their hearts change, they have to be taught the way of the kingdom? In fact, I had a client in my office today, who had gotten saved. She was full of excitement and had truly dedicated her life to Christ. Often when people get converted from the street, they have a lot of zeal for God but need wisdom and mentoring. Paul understood the culture by which many of these new converts had been raised in. They only knew one way of life; he had to teach them the way of the kingdom.

I do believe that you should come as you are to church, but with limits. If all you have is jeans, then come. There is a difference between not having any dress clothes versus coming in the same clothes you went to the club in before you got saved.

I know of this young lady who comes to my church, literarily her clothes are so tight it looks like she is preparing to go to the club. While in church; and you could see straight through her tight dress. I could clearly see she had a pink thong on, and believe me, I don’t find women attractive and wasn’t looking. She was showing me too much of herself; she was giving me and a lot of other people more information than we needed or cared to know.

One thing a prostitute tends to do is over do it with tight clothes, jewelry and a face full of makeup. They have to attract their customers. These women in the city of Corinth were use to being loud, raunchy and rude.

These same women, God saved. To God be the glory. Then they joined the church. They had been religious in the past to their false gods. There were temples full of prostitutes, and idol worshippers in the city. Paul had to set very clear rules, regulations, and order in the church of Corinth because of the environment by which the church came to be. If he hadn’t said this; people not knowing any better, would have taken their same ungodly, unholy pagan worship into the church of Jesus Christ. This is why Paul had to teach them the basics, like how to dress, how to wear makeup appropriately, how to wear their hair appropriately. Before their conversion, they were to the extreme on the other side. He was telling them to tone it down, way down when they went into the house of God. They were used to going to temples where sex out in the open was welcome. He had to tell them now that they were in the house of God, to honor God, themselves and their husbands. They had to learn about submission that is proper, where in the past they had subjected and submitted their bodies to unholy perversion.

Do I think Paul was wrong to tell the women not to speak? No! He was telling them based upon their culture. Again, they were use to going into false temples where things were loud and wrong.

He had to tell them to have one husband, and when you come to the house of God, don’t start yelling and acting a fool, be quiet and ask your husband questions when you get home. Again, based upon the historical context, and environment by which this church was established.

If Paul had such issues with women, speaking and leading in the church, why did he openly honor women, husband and wife teams, and then admonished others to show them respect while leading people? Paul was not confused. He knew exactly what he was doing.

1 Corinthians 16:19-21 (KJV)

9 The churches of Asia salute you. Aquila and Priscilla salute you much in the Lord, with the church that is in their house.

20 All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss.

21 The salutation of me Paul with mine own hand.

Priscilla and Aquilla were a husband and wife team, that had a church in their home. Now if Paul just wanted to address the husband he would have, but no he clearly greets them with respect and acknowledged “they,” not just the husband.

Some believe this is the beginning of the husband and wife team, otherwise known as the Pastor and Co-Pastor, although the Bible is not clear about this.

Romans 16:7 (TLB)

7 Then there are Andronicus and Junias, my relatives who were in prison with me. They are respected by the apostles and became Christians before I did. Please give them my greetings.

Many believed that Andronicus and Junias were another husband and wife team.

I could go on. Let’s look at another example in Paul’s words.

Romans 16:6 (KJV)

6 Greet Mary, who bestowed much labour on us.

Romans 16:6 (NLT)

6 Give my greetings to Mary, who has worked so hard for your benefit.

Romans 16:15 (NLT)

15 Give my greetings to Philologus, Julia, Nereus and his sister, and to Olympas and all the believers[a] who meet with them.

I could go on, but clearly, Paul was not only acknowledging the men but the women as well. He was treating them with honor and respect.

Romans 16:1 (NLT)

16 I commend to you our sister Phoebe, who is a deacon in the church in Cenchrea.

Romans 16:1 (KJV)

16 I commend unto you Phoebe our sister, which is a servant of the church which is at Cenchrea:

Clearly, if you are serving in the church in any capacity deacon or not, at some point you are going to have to open your mouth.

Clearly, as a minister of Jesus Christ, I don’t believe that women can’t be in ministry. If Paul was implying that women can’t be in active ministry, then why was he actively acknowledging and showing honor to women, who were clearly in ministry, along with men?

So do I think that Paul was wrong? No! If the shoe fits wear it. I was in church a while back. I had gotten there late and had to sit towards the back, which was to my regret. It was a sign to me that from there on out, I needed to get to church on time.

I go to a church where we clap when it is good; we raise our hands in recognition of a good word. We say, “Hallelujah.” We say, “Amen pastor” when it is getting good. Still, because I was in the nosebleed section, I was around some women that were just too much. I mean I heard multiple conversations while the pastor was preaching. Everything the pastor said, there was some story in their lives that they needed to share with one another.

These women are examples of a spirit that ran rapidly in the Corinth church. We still need mothers in the church to teach new converts, how they are to conduct themselves not only in church but in life. Thanks to Apostle Paul for being so bold as to say what we were all thinking. I confess when these women come into church, with the see-through dress, and pink thongs underwear on, no I don’t say anything. I am glad you are in church. Still, that doesn’t mean that someone doesn’t need to teach you something. You shouldn’t wear tight clothes with see-through garments on, with your underwear showing and your breast hanging out anywhere, and not in church.

People need to teach young ladies and women, how to present themselves as women of virtue. Yes, virtue does start in the heart, but it should translate over into how you dress. Change happens from the inside out, but that doesn’t mean you don’t need a wise elder to tell you the truth in love.

Paul was setting standards in the Corinth church. That doesn’t mean it applies to all churches. Though again, if someone looks to be in spirit of the Corinth people, before their conversion to Christ, they just need to be taught. No one prior had taught the people of Corinth any different because no matter how wrong their environment, it was all they knew. Remember I said, your environment will give you identity if you let it. Apostle Paul was simply giving them a different Godly identity.

Again, it may not apply to all, but it to this day, does apply to some.

Nevertheless, you can see how false doctrine, wrong theology, and misinterpretation of scripture, can beguile us. To this day because people simply don’t study for truth, they assume that women, can’t be in ministry. They make things a sin that simply is not. Wearing makeup is not a sin. Wearing pants is not a sin. There is nothing wrong with women in ministry.

Excerpt from the book: Who Beguiled Your

Samaria M Colbert © 2017

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The Ugly Side Of Social Media

Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on February 1, 2017 at 2:40 PM

By: Samaria M Colbert

Excerpt from the book; The Bible And Business

I am not an advocate of drinking alcohol, wine or beer. However there was an old adage that when a person had some liquid courage in them, they would say whatever they wanted without fear. Getting little tipsy would lend a person to say things they wouldn’t say if they were sober. People said that with this liquid courage you would cast off all restraint and act a fool. You would then regret the next day, due to a hangover, maybe a regretful night, and some hurt feelings.

I don’t drink, I have never gotten drunk in my life.  I do have some people who have been addicted to drugs and alcohol in my family and needless to say it is not a pretty sight.

Ephesians 5:18 (KJV)

18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;

Proverbs 23:20-21 (KJV)

20 Be not among winebibbers; among riotous eaters of flesh:

21 For the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty: and drowsiness shall clothe a man with rags.

God clearly is telling us according to His word we are not to get drunk or be filled with wine. I know this chapter is taking a weird turn but as always go with me, believe it or not we are going somewhere.

My point is there was a time that the only people who said what they wanted, how they wanted, to whom they wanted to, without restraint were people drunk with wine, or people who had anger management problems. Neither of that is a positive.

Now we have blood washed, bible believing Christians who believe that can say whatever they want, disrespect leaders, presidents, and officials in authority without regard or a care. All due to the invent of social media.

Now you don’t need liquid courage, to be arrogant, prideful, or just plain rude and extremely disrespectful, all you need is an open lap top an unrestrained mouth and typing hands that devises evil.

Yep this chapter in case you haven’t already guest it, will hit hard but it will save your life, your business, your relationship, and your ministry. God will still hold us accountable for what we say and what we type. And yes this has very much to do with doing business God’s way.

Matthew 12:37 (KJV)

37 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.


 Matthew 12:36 (KJV)

36 But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.

This will make sense in a minute. I want you to understand that when you are in business, you sit in a position of authority. There is certain respect that we must have for anyone who sits in this seat of authority whether you agree with them or not. It doesn’t mean you compromise or don’t speak up, there is a way to speak to authority as found in scripture.

I want you to understand every act, word, deed that you do against someone seated in this position of authority is a reflection on you. What that means is every arrow you sling towards someone else, will release that same curse back to you ten times greater. When you make yourself a weapon against someone’s seat of authority, God then releases that same curse back to you?

What you reap to others, you will reap yourself. This is important because as a business leader you must handle other people correctly. Many people get it when it comes to handling people correctly that they lead, what they don’t get is how you treat people who are in positions of authority over them, will be a reflection of you and whether or not you succeed or fail. It will either contribute to your blessing or your demise, whether you know them or not. It really doesn’t matter whether or not you agree with them. No they are not unapproachable or without reproach.

Remember scripture says whatever idle world spoken you will give account. Idle means empty, void, worthless. 

When you disrespect another leader, God will in turn make sure you are disrespected to a greater degree,  it also shows that you have a wrong spirit that needs deliverance. I can prove it by scripture.

2 Peter 2:10-11 (TLB)

10 He is especially hard on those who follow their own evil, lustful thoughts, and those who are proud and willful, daring even to scoff at the Glorious Ones[a] without so much as trembling,

11 although the angels in heaven who stand in the very presence of the Lord, and are far greater in power and strength than these false teachers, never speak out disrespectfully against these evil Mighty Ones.


To clarify I am going to put this scripture in a different translation.

2 Peter 2:10-11 (KJV)

10 But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness, and despise government. Presumptuous are they, self-willed, they are not afraid to speak evil of dignities.

11 Whereas angels, which are greater in power and might, bring not railing accusation against them before the Lord.

2 Peter 2:10-14 (MSG)

10-11 God is especially incensed against these “teachers” who live by lust, addicted to a filthy existence. They despise interference from true authority, preferring to indulge in self-rule. Insolent egotists, they don’t hesitate to speak evil against the most splendid of creatures. Even angels, their superiors in every way, wouldn’t think of throwing their weight around like that, trying to slander others before God.


12-14 These people are nothing but brute beasts, born in the wild, predators on the prowl. In the very act of bringing down others with their ignorant blasphemies, they themselves will be brought down, losers in the end. Their evil will boomerang on them.

Presumptuous means full of, characterized by, or showing presumption or readiness to presume in conduct or thought, as by saying or doing something without right or permission. It also means unwarrantedly or impertinently bold; forward. Impertinent means not showing proper respect; rude. Mean they are without restraint rude, disrespectful and bold, directly at dignitaries. Dignitaries are people put in positions of authority, a high rank of office, or important position.

Let us go back to the scripture.

The word is telling us that ungodly people will walk in the flesh, meaning they say whatever their flesh tells them to. They are unclean, they despise the government, are self-willed (doing whatever they want to do and say) and they are not afraid to speak negatively about someone with boldness.

We are going someone where. Dishonor is setting yourself up for a curse. Verse 11 tells that that angels who have higher might and power know the wisdom against not making accusations or rude statements against someone in authority.

The bible calls people like this false teachers. Scripture calls out the people bragging, talking against officials. When they don’t understand something they speak against it.

2 Peter 2:12 (KJV)

12 But these, as natural brute beasts, made to be taken and destroyed, speak evil of the things that they understand not; and shall utterly perish in their own corruption;

2 Peter 3:3 (KJV)

3 Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts,

Scoff means speak to someone or about something in a scornfully derisive or mocking way.

Jude 9-11The Message (MSG)

9-11 The Archangel Michael, who went to the mat with the Devil as they fought over the body of Moses, wouldn’t have dared level him with a blasphemous curse, but said simply, “No you don’t. God will take care of you!” But these people sneer at anything they can’t understand, and by doing whatever they feel like doing—living by animal instinct only—they participate in their own destruction

Jude 9-11 (KJV)

9 Yet Michael the archangel, when contending with the devil he disputed about the body of Moses, durst not bring against him a railing accusation, but said, The Lord rebuke thee.

10 But these speak evil of those things which they know not: but what they know naturally, as brute beasts, in those things they corrupt themselves.

11 Woe unto them! for they have gone in the way of Cain, and ran greedily after the error of Balaam for reward, and perished in the gainsaying of Core.

When someone is in a position of authority there is a level of respect and dignity that comes with the position.

Let me give you an example of how this is important to you.

I remember years ago the church I was attending went through a church split. I felt some kind of way about it and was very hurt at my pastors. I remember a friend from my hometown called me and I ended up venting about what I felt was wrong.

The next thing you know all chaos broke loose in my life. I mean I had a curse released over my head. I remember crying out in anguish asking God what happened. He reminded of that phone call I had with my friend.

Mind you what I said wasn’t wrong, my estimation of how I thought things went and should happen was according to the word of God. I was venting, to her. God didn’t tell me what I said was wrong, He told me speaking against them was wrong, I shouldn’t have done that.

 I had to repent. I am going to show you in scripture  how you can still represent the mouth piece of God and be respectful, yes we are still going to talk about social media.

Another time I had a friend, who is no longer a friend. She had her own ministry. She would often speak against leaders in other churches, what she felt they did wrong, and such, I mean it was an ongoing thing.

The Holy Spirit was offended. Every time I was around her I began to feel very convicted and grieved of Him. I knew the Lord was telling me to disconnect for this reason. I didn’t want to because I am a young person just like everyone else. I wanted friends and enjoyed the fun times, it wasn’t all bad.

I remember being so convicted, I finally decided to just disconnect. I remember after making that decision, I went to church that night, and my then pastor began to speak about this very topic. I knew I had heard from God.

When a person continues to speak against another, they were despising authority, they are ignorant of satan’s devices, they are pretentious, and don’t understand that they are releasing curses into their own lives. They are secretly contentious of someone else’s authority. Meaning they are jealous and envious of someone else’s position of authority.

Psalm 105:15 (TLB)

15 “Touch not these chosen ones of mine,” he warned, “and do not hurt my prophets.”

1 Chronicles 16:22 (KJV)

22 Saying, Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm.

There is a way to respond to leaders in positions of authority even when they are wrong. David was a prime example. Saul was coming after him trying to kill David, multiple times. David never responded with disrespect or contentiousness, he honored Saul until his death. Even though Saul was dead wrong and acting outside of the will of God. David had an opportunity multiple times to kill Saul, but he didn’t. Look what David said, to Saul, after he didn’t kill him when he could have.

1 Samuel 24:3-12Living Bible (TLB)

3 At the place where the road passes some sheepfolds, Saul went into a cave to go to the bathroom, but as it happened, David and his men were hiding in the cave!

4 “Now’s your time!” David’s men whispered to him. “Today is the day the Lord was talking about when he said, ‘I will certainly put Saul into your power, to do with as you wish’!” Then David crept forward and quietly slit off the bottom of Saul’s robe! 

5 But then his conscience began bothering him.

6 “I shouldn’t have done it,” he said to his men. “It is a serious sin to attack God’s chosen king in any way.”

7-8 These words of David persuaded his men not to kill Saul.

After Saul had left the cave and gone on his way, David came out and shouted after him, “My lord the king!” And when Saul looked around, David bowed low before him.

9-10 Then he shouted to Saul, “Why do you listen to the people who say I am trying to harm you? This very day you have seen it isn’t true. For the Lord placed you at my mercy back there in the cave, and some of my men told me to kill you, but I spared you. For I said, ‘I will never harm him—he is the Lord’s chosen king.’

 11 See what I have in my hand? It is the hem of your robe! I cut it off, but I didn’t kill you! Doesn’t this convince you that I am not trying to harm you and that I have not sinned against you, even though you have been hunting for my life?

12 “The Lord will decide between us. Perhaps he will kill you for what you are trying to do to me, but I will never harm you.

Again Saul was actively in pursuit of trying to kill David, he basically stops and uses the bathroom. David’s men tell him to go ahead and do it, “this must be God’s will.” David didn’t kill the man that is trying to kill him, but falls down to his feet and apologizes for cutting a piece of his robe off. Hello! Someone is trying to kill you and you repent for cutting a piece of clothes. Now that is nothing but the spirit of God in David.

Look what happens next.

1 Samuel 24:15-22Living Bible (TLB)

15 May the Lord judge as to which of us is right and punish whichever one of us is guilty. He is my lawyer and defender, and he will rescue me from your power!”

16 Saul called back, “Is it really you, my son David?” Then he began to cry. 

17 And he said to David, “You are a better man than I am, for you have repaid me good for evil. 

18 Yes, you have been wonderfully kind to me today, for when the Lord delivered me into your hand, you didn’t kill me. 

19 Who else in all the world would let his enemy get away when he had him in his power? May the Lord reward you well for the kindness you have shown me today.

 20 And now I realize that you are surely going to be king, and Israel shall be yours to rule. 

21 Oh, swear to me by the Lord that when that happens you will not kill my family and destroy my line of descendants!”

22 So David promised, and Saul went home, but David and his men went back to their cave.

By the way Saul didn’t keep his word, he went right back to trying to kill David even after David showed him tremendous mercy. David kept his word and didn't try to kill Saul.

A great example was in the life of Joseph and Daniel. Joseph was accused of rape but never disrespected the authorities of his time.

Daniel was in a time when the king was corrupt. God used Daniel to go to the kings chamber and speak the whole counsel of God. He spoke the truth, in love, interpreted dreams and visions, but was never disrespectful in anyway, even though as stated he was thrown in a lions den, in a fiery furnace, great injustice happened to Daniel, and he never disrespected the man who was responsible for it. Yet he spoke the truth, always giving glory and honor to God first.

Daniel was such a witness of God, that his obedience and humility led the king honor God, before a nation.

So how does this relate to social media?

I am glad you asked, because I am going to show you how Christians are releasing curses onto themselves constantly speaking against each other, government officials, the president, other ministers. You are the initiator of your own demise.

Let’s say a great leader within the church has been found to have been laundering money at large amounts.  There it is live on CNN, CBC, Fox News you name it. A great pastor taken in hand cuffs, to the local police station. By the way this is a fictional story.

You are so angry. Then you get on social media and begin to talk bad about the church, this pastor, his associates, with the hash tag, money hungry preachers.

Were you wrong to feel angry? No. You still just released a curse into you own life. Why? You are disrespecting someone in a the position of authority. So how should you respond? Prayer. Don’t put your mouth on anyone. Don’t type it on Facebook either.

Proverbs 21:1 (KJV)

21 The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will.

What will happen to you? In your business you will experience the same curse and God will remind you of the idol words you spoke and typed against someone else. It could be an accounting error in your company. It could be that you have someone laundering money from your company and you had no idea.

The point is when you so discord amongst the body of Christ it will come back to you. God will deal with the leader if it is true.

Other examples, your favorite celebrity gains a few pounds, so you use social media to post unflattering pictures about them, making jokes. Well you reap what you sow.

Galatians 6:7 (KJV)

7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

Let us look at another example; there is controversy regarding your favorite gospel singer, so you take it to social media.

Guess what you are going to reap.

Another example the highest governmental office in the United States, is occupied by someone you think is an absolute disgrace. He appears to be highly unqualified, and pretentious. So you don’t think to remotely pray for him that God would turn his heart towards Him. No what you do is, every chance you get you post something that is  downright derogatory about him.

I am not say you are wrong to feel how you feel. I am not saying I am a supporter. Nevertheless this person is in a seat of authority. You can either be like Daniel, Joseph, the other prophets in the bible or you can be cursed. You decide.

I know some of you are not going to agree with this chapter, but I promise you I could care less. We Christians need to act like Christians when it is hard, not just when it is convenient and things go our way.

You want to curse yourself that is your business, I am just telling you what the word says.

Another example you think a big time televangelist is an outright fraud. So you go on Facebook live to hold a big teleconference about how wrong you think he or she is.

Just go one ahead and point to yourself, and say,  “cursed.” Because that is what is going to happen. Remember our scripture that we read in the beginning of this chapter.

Proverbs 6:16-19 (KJV)

16 These six things doth the Lord hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:

17 A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,

18 An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,

19 A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.

Why do we love something that God hates?

No you are not in position to question someone else’s position of authority just because you are seated in the same position or similar position of authority. There is no scriptural basis for that. Does that mean God doesn’t send a person to correct or admonish or direct? No.

Luke 17:3 (KJV)

3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.

1 Timothy 5:20 (KJV)

20 Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.

Still when you read the bible the prophet was always sent to a king, or priest. God would send the prophet. Man didn’t just send himself. The prophet responded in the most tactful way possible.

Matthew 18:15-17 (KJV)

15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.

16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.

17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.

Galatians 6:1-3 (KJV)

6 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.

2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.

3 For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself.

2 Thessalonians 3:14(KJV)

14 And if any man obey not our word by this epistle, note that man, and have no company with him, that he may be ashamed.

I am not suggesting that you be a passive Christian and never say anything about injustice. I am suggesting that you be led by the Holy Spirit. These people acting as social media bullies are not being led by the spirit, in fact the tone and spirit in which they write breeds, jealously, envious, a spirit of competition, and they are doing what God hates, spreading discord (division) among Christian brethren.

Inevitably if you are a business owner you cannot avoid social media. If it was up to me, I would do away with social media all together, but the problem is I would like to actually sell books. I need my websites, facebooks etc.

Yet there are still rules to remain in integrity and good character.

The final will be a list of strategies and ethics. We have already talked in detail about principles.

Strategies and Ethics:

They are in no particular order.

1.   Don’t use any social media account to sow discord, sow rumors, gossip, hatred to another organization, minister, persons in authority. Pray.


2.   If you cannot tell it to someone’s face with the same level of sarcasm, and tone then you probably shouldn’t say it. You are more than likely not being led by the Holy Spirit


3.   Stick to the facts, no false advertisement. Don’t hype yourself up beyond where and who you are. You are not a worldwide singing sensation, just because you can sing, and you have a website that technically can be accessed in different nations.


4.   Facebook is not your therapist. If it sounds like something you should be processing through in a private confidential, place, it probably shouldn’t be posted on social media.


5.   Remember listen before you speak, or in this case READ, before you type, and hit that post button.


6.   There is a such thing as too much sharing. We really don’t want to know what you ate last night, your breakfast, pictures we don’t need to be included when you’re hungry and every little detail about your life.


7.   Just like in life we consider a person just plain obnoxious, and annoying when they keep talking about themselves, so it goes with social media.


8.   Make it about your business, your product etc.


9.   There is a log out, unsubscribe, block button attached to your social media accounts, please feel free to use them.


10. Lastly as my pastor says, “when you are great, everyone shouldn’t have access to you.” Just because you are on social media doesn’t mean people have 24 hour access to you.


11. Don’t go back and forth with anyone on social media.


12. Don’t take it personal, your insecurities will show.


13. Remember the sound bite is dangerous. You most likely don’t have all the information about someone you have a sound bite. Don’t fall victim, or prey to the deception of the sound bite.



Samaria M Colbert © 2017


Divine Provision For The Vision

Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on January 28, 2017 at 10:40 AM

2 Kings 4:3 (KJV)

3 Then he said, Go, borrow thee vessels abroad of all thy neighbours, even empty vessels; borrow not a few



e have all had that experience, were we have more bills than we have money. Most people live from paycheck to paycheck. Most people are one check away from being homeless. We use to say when I was younger, “we rob Peter to pay Paul.” Meaning, we don’t pay one bill to pay another bill just to stay afloat.

Most people won’t start off being wealthy, unless you are born into riches. Our Father in heaven is rich beyond imagination, but for mostof us our earthly parents were not.

Really provision is not about our need or God’s ability to provide, it is about our faith. You see God uses the circumstance of life to build our faith, and to get us to a closer relationship with Him. If it was just about our provision, we would never want for anything because God would just pay our bills.

He doesn’t do that straight away. God allows us to have lack in areas or to not have. These are the trying times that are meant to provoke us to have a greater relationship with God.

Think about it, if God just gave you what you wanted whenever you wanted there would be no need for you to pray. You wouldn’t talk to God. You wouldn’t really know Him. You would take for granted who He is in your life.

Have you read about some rich celebrity who had everything they could ever want or desire? They take money, provision and privileges as an entitlement.

You don’t know God as a provider if you never had a need. You don’t know to seek Him as Father, if you have never been fatherless. You don’t know God as King, if He has never been your Lord.

Let us consider this matter further.

First, understand that there are three different levels of provision. You don’t get to the promise without going through the wilderness.

There are three levels of provision are as follows;

1.Not Enough

2.Just Enough

3.More Than Enough (The Promise)

It is important that wherever you find yourself, you must be faithful unto God. You don’t get to pass through to the next stage if you are not faithful where you are. We will talk later about tithes, but understand if you don’t pay your tithes you don’t get to move forward you get to stay stuck.

First let us look at the first stage not enough. This is when a person is at a deficit. This is when you don’t have enough for your needs. Maybe you have a light bill due, but you don’t have the full amount to pay it. You have a need and no way to supply.

This is when the bill collectors keep calling you, threatening legal action. They keep sending you those letters some in different colors. They are threatening to confiscate your check because you owe them money. This is when the loan sharks are coming after you. Maybe it is the only car you have and the company that holds your loan is threatening to repossess your car. This not enough stage is where many people are today. Some would argue that it is because you are living beyond your means. I would argue that this is not always the case sometimes you have the means, and are living within them, but your means are not enough.

We are going to understand and learn how to progress pass this stage by the supernatural hand of God.

While in this stage believe it or not, God is at work. During this stage of fear and uncertainty first to get you through you must lean on God in unprecedented ways, because He is the only one who can help you.

When you don’t see away know there is always a way. Just pray to God but don’t pray fearful thoughts, remind yourself of who God is, and of His word. “God you said, you are my Father and a good Father takes care of me.” “You said, you would supply all me needs.”

We are going to talk further about divine strategy but understand God takes care of His own.

Philippians 4:19 (KJV)

19 But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

Notice the scripture, “My God”. The scripture doesn’t say, “some foreign being.” If He is your God and you belong to Him, therefore you can declare “My God”.

Ask and keep asking.

Matthew 7:7-11Living Bible (TLB)

7 “Ask, and you will be given what you ask for. Seek, and you will find. Knock, and the door will be opened. 

8 For everyone who asks, receives. Anyone who seeks, finds. If only you will knock, the door will open. 

9 If a child asks his father for a loaf of bread, will he be given a stone instead? 

10 If he asks for fish, will he be given a poisonous snake? Of course not! 

11 And if you hard-hearted, sinful men know how to give good gifts to your children, won’t your Father in heaven even more certainly give good gifts to those who ask him for them?

Whatever you have need of God will supply.

I remember a few years ago, I had just moved and spent most of my money on the move. I was down to my last and wasn’t sure how I would have food. I had decided that I would eat oatmeal and the minimal just to get me through to the next week.

I didn’t think to ask. Out of nowhere someone blessed me with two weeks’ worth of groceries. They told me to get whatever I wanted. Completely unexpected. Just the other day I had decided to go to the grocery to pick up a few items. I ran into an old classmate and she purchased my groceries. Mind you, I had the money but God allowed her to bless me. As we talked, she reminded me that God would supply my need.

I had an incident a while back where I had spent my last bit of money getting my car fixed.  A few days later someone gave me money, something I wasn’t expecting, so that the cost of me getting my car fixed didn’t set me back.

My point is, it is at this stage where we learn to trust God. This is not about the need, but the development of our relationship with Him. I wrote a book years ago, after going through some pretty traumatic things. The book was called, Trusting God Isn’t Easy But It Is Worth It.

Two principles you must master in order to progress past this stage is the art of gratefulness, and a divine plan.

Let me explain, first you must practice gratefulness. Meaning, begin to thank God for what He has done. Complaining will keep you stuck. Remaining faithful will get you to matriculate on to the next.

Matthew 25:23(KJV)

23 His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.

In God’s kingdom, you can’t start with being a ruler over many, if you can’t be a ruler over little.

Now the divine secret, it is at this stage where God will give you the strategy for divine wealth. He has to get your attention at this stage so that you pursue more. You won’t pursue the greater if you are comfortable.

I don’t know about you, but after going through school, and still being at a deficit, something in my spirit said, “There has to be more to live than this.” Living paycheck to paycheck. Living at barely enough. Never being able to take a vacation, contemplating: “If I go to bible study will I have enough gas to make it to Sunday morning?” Having to choose between the two is not having enough.

Remember, “not enough” is the stage God allows only to get our attention. It is not meant for us to live. Yet there are people that live and die in the place of not enough.

Remember this is the stage where God will give you strategy. I didn’t say He would give you riches at this stage I said strategy. Yes it is a process, and there is something for you to do.

2 Kings 4:1-7Living Bible (TLB)

4 One day the wife of one of the seminary students came to Elisha to tell him of her husband’s death. He was a man who had loved God, she said. But he had owed some money when he died, and now the creditor was demanding it back. If she didn’t pay, he said he would take her two sons as his slaves.

2 “What shall I do?” Elisha asked. “How much food do you have in the house?”

“Nothing at all, except a jar of olive oil,” she replied.

3 “Then borrow many pots and pans from your friends and neighbors!” he instructed.


4 “Go into your house with your sons and shut the door behind you. Then pour olive oil from your jar into the pots and pans, setting them aside as they are filled!”

5 So she did. Her sons brought the pots and pans to her, and she filled one after another!  6 Soon every container was full to the brim!

“Bring me another jar,” she said to her sons.

“There aren’t any more!” they told her. And then the oil stopped flowing!

7 When she told the prophet what had happened, he said to her, “Go and sell the oil and pay your debt, and there will be enough money left for you and your sons to live on!”

Notice the pattern, first the woman starts at not enough, then God uses the prophet to give her a strategy, then she moves from not enough to being debt free and more than enough to live on. However, she had to start at not enough. God will not put His hand supernaturally on nothing. You have to have something. What is your gift, talent, ability? What is in your hand?

It is at this stage where God will give you the business He wants you to have. It is at this stage where the Holy Spirit begins to download to you creative ideas. God will give you a vision that is beyond your financial ability or capacity to fund. It is at this stage where faith begins to rise you in, because you have a plan and a vision from God. You have to trust Him. If you have a vision from God and you know exactly how you will accomplish it, and furthermore, you have the means to make it happen, your vision is not from God. God will always give you a vision that is beyond your capacity. He wants us to know that He has a plan, but we will never get to His promise absent from His provision.

This stage is designed to make us so comfortable that we pursue the greater. Most people don’t pursue greatness in a comfortable or complacent place. This is why God orchestrates our being uncomfortable.

The next stage of provision is just enough. This is when your bills are paid, but you don’t have hardly any left over. This stage can invoke fear and anxiety if we allow; because we start thinking about the “what if’s”. What if your car breaks down? It is at this stage where you can’t save money no matter how hard you try. Believe it or not it is still God’s doing. This is the in-between stage. You are not in a place of poverty, but not at the promise.

A great example would be when the people of Israel were delivered from the bondage of Egypt. Egypt presented a place of not enough.  It was a place of extreme poverty.

Then God provides them with manna which means bread from heaven.  Remember I said complaining will not get you to the promise. Let’s read. Again, even the place of barely enough we must follow the instructions, and practice gratefulness in order to proceed to the next stage.

Exodus 16:1-6 (NLT)

16 Then the whole community of Israel set out from Elim and journeyed into the wilderness of Sin,[a] between Elim and Mount Sinai. They arrived there on the fifteenth day of the second month, one month after leaving the land of Egypt.[b]

 2 There, too, the whole community of Israel complained about Moses and Aaron.

3 “If only the Lord had killed us back in Egypt,” they moaned. “There we sat around pots filled with meat and ate all the bread we wanted. But now you have brought us into this wilderness to starve us all to death.”

4 Then the Lord said to Moses, “Look, I’m going to rain down food from heaven for you. Each day the people can go out and pick up as much food as they need for that day. I will test them in this to see whether or not they will follow my instructions.

 5 On the sixth day they will gather food, and when they prepare it, there will be twice as much as usual.”

6 So Moses and Aaron said to all the people of Israel, “By evening you will realize it was the Lord who brought you out of the land of Egypt

What if God told you not to save, but at the end of each week you have would have double of what you did not save? I know it sounds odd, but that is what happened?

First manna is bread from heaven. Literarily it was a small round substance that tasted like cake. God used it to sustain the people.

Psalm 78:24 (NLT)

24 He rained down manna for them to eat; he gave them bread from heaven.

Exodus 16:31 (KJV)

31 And the house of Israel called the name thereof Manna: and it was like coriander seed, white; and the taste of it was like wafers made with honey.

They were not having full course meals, but the substance was so good that it was meant to sustain them. Meaning it was a small item, easy to carry, nutritious and guaranteed that they wouldn’t be hungry. Manna was not nasty.

It is during this stage of just enough that God sustains us. He may not give you what you want He gives you what you need.

So God tells the people of Israel only take what you need for the day, and by the end of the day you will have double.

The question we must ask ourselves at the stage of barely enough, are we going to trust God? God doesn’t want us to feel safe and secure in the manna He provides He wants us to find safety and security in Him. The people of Israel were murmurers and complainers. They also were hard headed. Remember I said complaining about what God has given doesn’t get you to the promise. If you are living in a one bedroom apartment, and have a desire to live in a four bedroom dream home, you have to be grateful for the one bedroom apartment. God is using that place to sustain you. You will get to the promise, but not with an ungrateful complaining spirit.

God kept trying to get the people of Israel to trust Him. So He showed them signs and wonders.  After they kept complaining about God’s provision He decided to teach them a lesson.

Let us continue to look at what happened.

Exodus 16:7-21Living Bible (TLB)

7-9 In the morning you will see more of his glory; for he has heard your complaints against him (for you aren’t really complaining against us—who are we? ). The Lord will give you meat to eat in the evening, and bread in the morning. Come now before Jehovah and hear his reply to your complaints.”

10 So Aaron called them together and suddenly, out toward the wilderness, from within the guiding cloud, there appeared the awesome glory of Jehovah.

11-12 And Jehovah said to Moses, “I have heard their complaints. Tell them, ‘In the evening you will have meat and in the morning you will be stuffed with bread, and you shall know that I am Jehovah your God.’”

13 That evening vast numbers of quail arrived and covered the camp, and in the morning the desert all around the camp was wet with dew; 

14 and when the dew disappeared later in the morning it left thin white flakes that covered the ground like frost.


15 When the people of Israel saw it they asked each other, “What is it?”

And Moses told them, “It is the food Jehovah has given you.


16 Jehovah has said for everyone to gather as much as is needed for his household—about two quarts[a] for each person.”

17 So the people of Israel went out and gathered it—some getting more and some less before it melted on the ground, 

18 and there was just enough for everyone. Those who gathered more had nothing left over and those who gathered little had no lack! Each home had just enough.

19 And Moses told them, “Don’t leave it overnight.”

20 But of course some of them wouldn’t listen, and left it until morning; and when they looked, it was full of maggots and had a terrible odor; and Moses was very angry with them.

 21 So they gathered the food morning by morning, each home according to its need; and when the sun became hot upon the ground, the food melted and disappeared.

I want you to look again at verse 18. “there was just enough for everyone. Those who gathered more had nothing left over and those who gathered little had no lack! Each home had just enough.”

In the place of just enough, there is enough for everyone. I am not implying that you can’t save at this stage. I am pointing out that those who tried to gather more than they were supposed to, ended up with maggots, a terrible odor and not to gross you out, but I wonder if there were any issues with diarrhea amongst them. Eating bad meat, and smelling the odor of rotten meat will get you on the toilet and throwing up.

Why did God do this? I believe that He wanted them to trust Him. He wanted them to be assured that regardless of what it looked like, they would have more food tomorrow. They didn’t have to store up food and hide stuff, God would give them new manna each day.

Some of you may not understand. My great grandmother was someone who lived alone, but had tons of food stored in her home. She would have bottles of water just sitting on the floor unused. You couldn’t ask her for something or she would get upset. I realized later after she had passed on that she suffered with anxiety. Grandmother had also lived through the great depression. She went through times of not having enough. I believe having that food in her cabinets was a safety blanket. When she passed away and we had to clean out her home. She had cans in her cabinets that had expired 10 and 15 year prior.

Eventually, God would give the people of Israel more but they had to eat manna.

Exodus 16:35 (TLB)

35 So the people of Israel ate the manna forty years until they arrived in the land of Canaan, where there were crops to eat.

Believe it or not your place of just enough is God’s doing.

Let us look at another example.

1 Kings 17:1-7New King James Version (NKJV)

Elijah Proclaims a Drought

17 And Elijah the Tishbite, of the inhabitants of Gilead, said to Ahab, “As the Lord God of Israel lives, before whom I stand, there shall not be dew nor rain these years, except at my word.”

2 Then the word of the Lord came to him, saying,


3 “Get away from here and turn eastward, and hide by the Brook Cherith, which flows into the Jordan. 

4 And it will be that you shall drink from the brook, and I have commanded the ravens to feed you there.”

5 So he went and did according to the word of the Lord, for he went and stayed by the Brook Cherith, which flows into the Jordan. 

6 The ravens brought him bread and meat in the morning, and bread and meat in the evening; and he drank from the brook.


7 And it happened after a while that the brook dried up, because there had been no rain in the land.

I want you to hear me and hear me good. It doesn’t matter what the economy looks like. It doesn’t matter what the economic status of the world looks like. It doesn’t matter who the president is whether you voted for him or not. God will provide for you. God will sustain you.

Sustain means to be kept. Sustain means to strengthen, support physically and mentally. It means to support, carry, withstand, nourish. During a famine God promised the prophet he would sustain him. Look at the similarities between the prophet and the people of Israel. God provided bread, meat and water during a time were no rain, or water was plenteous.

We are spending a lot of time talking about the just enough stage because many people are in this stage.  Let us look at another example.

1 Kings 17:8-16 (TLB)

8-9 Then the Lord said to him, “Go and live in the village of Zarephath, near the city of Sidon. There is a widow there who will feed you. I have given her my instructions.”

10 So he went to Zarephath. As he arrived at the gates of the city he saw a widow gathering sticks; and he asked her for a cup of water.

11 As she was going to get it, he called to her, “Bring me a bite of bread too.”

12 But she said, “I swear by the Lord your God that I haven’t a single piece of bread in the house. And I have only a handful of flour left and a little cooking oil in the bottom of the jar. I was just gathering a few sticks to cook this last meal, and then my son and I must die of starvation.”

13 But Elijah said to her, “Don’t be afraid! Go ahead and cook that ‘last meal,’ but bake me a little loaf of bread first; and afterwards there will still be enough food for you and your son. 

14 For the Lord God of Israel says that there will always be plenty of flour and oil left in your containers until the time when the Lord sends rain and the crops grow again!”

15 So she did as Elijah said, and she and Elijah and her son continued to eat from her supply of flour and oil as long as it was needed.


16 For no matter how much they used, there was always plenty left in the containers, just as the Lord had promised through Elijah!

Hopefully you are seeing this. It was not the prophet that we have faith in, but God. God didn’t tell the prophet to go to a rich woman who had money. No, he commands a woman who has no money, and is just wanting to eat her final meal and die.

This stage is so important.

First thing first; this is where your business will be made perfect. Meaning, you will be working and reworking your plan. Since God told me to write, I have spent years, writing. I have spent years working on my gift, each year I have gotten better and better. In fact, I still have to go back and reedit some of my old books.

I forgot to mention that the just enough stage is the process of development. This is where your business appears dormant, but you are growing. This is where you are being overlooked and ignored, but you are getting better. This is where your business plan is being developed to perfection.

How do we master this stage in order to move forward?

1.You must follow the instructions. Notice with the people of Israel they had to follow the instructions. Some didn’t, we won’t have time to go into it, but you will note that most of them didn’t make it to the promise land, including Moses because they didn’t follow the instructions.

2. Keep your mouth shut. You will not make it to the promise complaining. Practice gratefulness every opportunity you can. With the practice of gratefulness comes open doors and open opportunities.

3. Write your vision, then rewrite your vision as you get further instructions. God will give you the vision in parts, those parts will equal a whole. However, you have to write it out. It is not real if it is not on paper.

4. You must begin to see it before you see it. Your business, your vision must be so real that you know with a shadow of a doubt that this is what God has promised.

Habakkuk 2:2-4 (NKJV)

2 Then the Lord answered me and said:

“Write the vision

And make it plain on tablets,

That he may run who reads it.

3 For the vision is yet for an appointed time;

But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie.

Though it tarries, wait for it;

Because it will surely come,

It will not tarry.

4 “Behold the proud,

His soul is not upright in him;

But the just shall live by his faith.

Remember at the pointed time, the manifestation will come in supernatural ways.

5. Lastly, you must let go of fear. You can be right on the brink of the greatest breakthrough of your life. Fear will stop you dead in your tracks. Don’t have a grasshopper mentality when you are a king. I will explain.

If it is God’s business, God’s plans and God’s vision that He has downloaded to you, He will give you divine instructions and provision for the vision.

Samaria M Colbert © 2016

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Signs of Insecurity In A Ministerial Leader: How To Get Delivered.

Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on December 20, 2016 at 7:55 PM

Signs of Insecurity In A Ministerial Leader: How To Get Delivered.

Signs of Insecurity In A Ministerial Leader: How To Get Delivered.

By Samaria M Colbert

Apart of being a human is to have a struggle or if you are like most, many struggles. No matter how anointed, appointed and articulate you are, that anointing cost you. I tell people the reason I have been able to write so many books, is because God put me in the middle of many struggles in order to develop me.

This blog post is meant to help someone get delivered, or if you suspect your friend, your leader, your family member struggles with an area of insecurity you know the signs and how to pray that they be delivered.

The reality is as much as we honor leaders, they are susceptible to soul wounds more than the average person. If you love your leader whomever he or she maybe, you want to know how speak life to them and pray for the warring of their souls, so that they may do the work of the ministry in full strength not in weakness.

Maybe you’re like me you are a leader, but if you would admit you have had a struggle. I can write this article because I have been there and been delivered. However you can’t get delivered from what you don’t acknowledge. The reality is an insecure leader is dangerous to not only a body of believers, but to the whole body of Christ as a whole. We must see the demonic assignment of the enemy in order to gain victory. Take heart beloved, you and your leader are loved by God and He desires that His leader no matter their title or position, He wants them free in Jesus name.

First let us define what insecurity is. Insecurity is the state of being feeling threatened; lack of protection. In means lack of confidence. Most leaders will never admit that they lack confidence, but the reality is you can be confident in one area and not in the other. Just because a person can preach well doesn’t mean they are confident. Insecurity means lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt. Now let’s talk about signs of insecurity, they are in no particular order and this is not an all-inclusive list.


Signs of Insecurity In A Ministerial Leader


Competitive Spirit: This is the individual who views the ministry platform as a competition.

Competition means the act of competing; rivalry for supremacy. You know these individuals view the platform as competition because they use their ministry platform to speak against other ministers, preachers, and churches. We will talk further about this in a bit.  They may not reveal names but they make small suggestions and statements in such a way, you know exactly what and who they are talking about.

Remember saints, the Holy Spirit never competes against Himself. If a minister is using a Holy platform to openly speak against another minister, they are not being led by the Holy Spirit.

The Holy Spirit NEVER sows discord. Discord means to plant seeds of division. In church there should never be an "us" versus “them” mentality.

Proverbs 6:16-19 (NKJV)

16 These six things the Lord hates,

Yes, seven are an abomination to Him:

17 A proud look,

A lying tongue,

Hands that shed innocent blood,

18 A heart that devises wicked plans,

Feet that are swift in running to evil,

19 A false witness who speaks lies,

And one who sows discord among brethren

Using spiritual gifts inappropriately in an attempt intimidate, manipulate and or control others: this is self-explanatory. People are going to be intimidated by leaders to some degree particularly when they walk in the authority of God. However using the gifts of the spirit, prophecy, word of knowledge, gifts of wisdom to threaten or speak word curses over someone else’s life is not being deep this is witchcraft.


Secretly being intimidated by someone else’s spiritual gifting, but you don’t admit it, you just talk bad about them to others.

Comparison: whenever you compare yourself to another person, you secretly devalue your own self.

This is a big one repeatedly speaking against other churches and what you think they are or are not doing. Speaking against other apostles and prophets in the same arena as you. This a sign of secretly despising another’s minister. Inability to be happy for another ministry.

Being presumptuous-meaning you assume that someone is doing something wrong. Character assassination.

Psalm 19:13 (KJV)

13 Keep back thy servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me: then shall I be upright, and I shall be innocent from the great transgression

Inability to handle criticism. Leaders will be criticized whether that criticism is just or unjust, however it shows insecurity when you constantly need to go back and forth with someone to prove who you are.

TD Jakes said, “how others feel about me is none of my business.”

Excessive focus on self, which leads to self-promotion, boasting and pride. It means this person has a constant need for validation. This is displayed when a leader constantly and repeatedly talks about their accomplishments, their anointing, and there overall success. There is nothing wrong with feeling good about yourself and confident in being the vessel of God, but when you take up an excessive amount of time talking about yourself, you are guilty of idolatry. Meaning you want to be worshipped and idolized. The reality is it is not about us, it is about God, He gets the glory we are the empty vessels He uses.

Isaiah 42:8 God declared that He would not share His glory with another.

To constantly talk about you, what you have done, how many hours you pray and fast etc, how wonderful of a great preacher you are, only shows deep insecurity because there is a secret need for validation.

Spiritual abuse and controlling spirits, this is a big one. I won’t have time to go into detail. However if you can’t do anything less you get permission from your leader then that is a controlling spirit. I have heard of people who couldn’t go out of town until they told their pastor first. They couldn’t receive a prophetic word until it was passed through their pastor, they couldn’t date or marry lest their pastor approved. They couldn’t have friends outside of their church, etc etc, that is a controlling spirit.

Excessive or inappropriate use of social media: Social media is not the platform to attempt to address another leader or anyone for that matter.



 Galatians 6:1 (KJV)

6 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.

Matthew 18:14-17New King James Version (NKJV)

14 Even so it is not the will of your Father who is in heaven that one of these little ones should perish.

15 “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 

16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’[a]

 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.

The real agenda is to cause division and discord amongst other Christians and for the person initiating the division to gain more followers. This person is secretly envious and jealous of another.

Excessive use of social media, meaning you had a healing services so you post 100 different things about that healing service on Facebook. Remember excessive self-promotion is a sign of insecurity. Let God promote you.


Psalm 75:6-7(KJV)

6 For promotion cometh neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south.

7 But God is the judge: he putteth down one, and setteth up another.

Excessive focus on “haters” and people who don’t like you. Don’t buy the hater t-shirts. Constant talk about your enemies, who you think is jealous of you, wearing the haters t-shirt is like walking around with a sign on your forehead saying, “I am VERY, VERY, EXTREMELY insecure.”

Inability to receive wise counsel, meaning you think you are right and when a wise counselor (not anyone or everyone), but a wise counselor points out you are wrong you can’t receive it. Read Exodus 18 about how Moses received wise counseling. Great leaders need more than great friends, they need great wise counselors that are not afraid or intimidated by their anointing to tell them the truth.

Baby Jesus syndrome- this is not a diagnosable mental illness, but if I had it my way, I would add it to the DSM IV. Meaning having a false sense of responsibility, wearing yourself down to an early grave because you refuse to delegate authority. Secretly believing people can’t hear or receive from anyone but you. Honestly believing that if you don’t help them or fix them they can’t get fixed. Again read Exodus 18. Feelings as though you need to be accessible at all times.

Using your intellectual prowess to debate or speak the word of God in a way to confound or make another minister feel small or trapped by your words. Intellectual prowess is exceptional valor, bravery, or ability, especially in combat or battle, exceptional or superior ability, skill, or strength: his prowess as a public speaker. It is rooted in a spirit of pride.

This is someone who has a great knowledge of scripture and the word of God, but they use the word in unjust means. The word of God is not up for debate. You either come with the humility of a teacher or the pride of a debater.

2 Timothy 2:13-15 (CEB)

13 If we are disloyal, he stays faithful”

    because he can’t be anything else than what he is.

Speak, instruct, and act correctly

14 Remind them of these things and warn them in the sight of God not to engage in battles over words that aren’t helpful and only destroy those who hear them.

15 Make an effort to present yourself to God as a tried-and-true worker, who doesn’t need to be ashamed but is one who interprets the message of truth correctly.

Titus 3:9 (KJV)

9 But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain.

Vain means self-serving and self-seeking.

Pride, Pride, Pride is a sign of insecurity believe it or not.

Proverbs 16:18-19 (KJV)

18 Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.

19 Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud.


It is not a confidence issue rather what or who you put your trust in issue. You don’t need to grow in confidence but grow in God. We are insecure when we keep trying to put our confidence in flesh. You can try to gain confidence in many things of the flesh, (accomplishments, degrees, platforms, people). However you keep coming up short, because God will never allow anything or anyone to share glory with Him.

Philippians 3:2-8 (NKJV)

2 Beware of dogs, beware of evil workers, beware of the mutilation!

 3 For we are the circumcision, who worship God in the Spirit,[a] rejoice in Christ Jesus, and have no confidence in the flesh,

 4 though I also might have confidence in the flesh. If anyone else thinks he may have confidence in the flesh, I more so:

 5 circumcised the eighth day, of the stock of Israel, of the tribe of Benjamin, a Hebrew of the Hebrews; concerning the law, a Pharisee; 

6 concerning zeal, persecuting the church; concerning the righteousness which is in the law, blameless.

7 But what things were gain to me, these I have counted loss for Christ.

 8 Yet indeed I also count all things loss for the excellence of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them as rubbish, that I may gain Christ


How To Get Free:


  • Acknowledge: You can’t get free from a problem you don’t admit you have. You must sit down and be honest with yourself. Admit there is an area of insecurity. (basically humble yourself before God)
  • Repent: Repent doesn’t just mean to ask God for forgive but it also means to change directions.  

  • If you have offended someone else, you must do the hard part and ask for their forgiveness.


  • Renounce any soul tie connected to the insecurity. Remember I said insecurity can also be rooted in needing the validation and approval from people. Renounce that soul connection and be free in Jesus name.


Matthew 5:22-24 (KJV)

22 But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

23 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;

24 Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.

  • Still seek counseling, for deep rooted issues. We must address the underlying issues, depending on the depth of the resentment, insecurity.

  • Ask for Holy Spirit for deliverance from all soul wounds.

Hebrews 12:14 (NKJV)

14 Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord:



Samaria M Colbert © 2016

Worth The Wait

Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on December 15, 2016 at 7:00 PM

Worth The Wait By Samaria M Colbert

Matthew 6:22 (KJV)

22 The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light.


Single is not a dirty word. I know, I know it sounds odd for me to make such a statement, however, it needs to be said believe it or not. When you are young, maybe a teenager, or in college your parents or wise elders in your life will tell you to “stay single.” They will tell you to not focus on relationships until you get yourself together.

I know I have counseled young people to stay focused on themselves first. I have a young teen who I counsel now, all she does is talk about how wonderful her boyfriend is and how she wants to marry him. I don’t think there is anything wrong with having a boyfriend, but often times, young people will have goals, aspirations, talents and ideas about their future. Then they meet someone and all of a sudden they cast their dreams aside because they allowed someone to distract them from their destiny. Then you wake up one morning realizing that you have gained a spouse, but lost yourself in the process.

We will talk more about divine connections in another chapter, but when God blesses you with someone, they help you be better and reach your goals they are not a distraction to them.

Often times generational curses of poverty, teen pregnancy and lack of living a purposeful life comes as a direct result of allowing people in our lives who don’t have a plan for their own lives.

So we wise counselors advice you to put things into perspective, don’t make destiny decisions based upon someone that is only supposed to be temporarily in your life, if they are meant to be in your life at all.

So we say stay single, focus on your purpose and God’s plan for your life. However as stated, this is what we say when you are very young, much too young to know truly who you are, and your place in the world. You need time to figure you out first.

However, there comes a time in every single woman’s life when single becomes a dirty word. I know I know things are getting strange, go with me I am going somewhere.

I was at a funeral about a year ago. There were cousins and family I hadn’t heard from or seen in years. It is funny how family tends to reunite at funerals, weddings and family reunions. So I get there and a cousin says to me, “so where the ring at, you not married yet?” In his defense, he was being funny, we laughed it off. I didn’t take offense to anything he said, like I said it was all in fun.

However, after you have been single for some time, you get the funny look that asked the same question, “why are you still single?”

In many cases being single, can be almost like walking around with a scarlet letter on your forehead.

People begin to assume because you are single then that means you are desperate. I remember years ago, I walked into my office, and said to another coworkers who just so happened was married, “Good Morning.”

Mind you when I said, “Good Morning.” That was all I was saying or implying. The “Good Morning” was being cordial. I don’t know how he took it but he barely looked me in the eye, and barely spoke. The next day he made sure he stood his distance.

I want to make this clear that I have never wanted, desired or even thought about dating a married man. I was saying good morning because that is what I do. I am polite. Every morning when I go to my office, whatever coworker is there I say, “Good Morning.” I remember posting on Facebook sometime later, that just because someone is single doesn’t mean they are desperate. We single women do have a desire to be married, however I want a man of God, a husband, not someone else’s husband. A virtuous woman walks in her worth, and would never consider such a move.

However, single can become a dirty word when other people’s insecurities about who you are come into play. I walk around with my head held high, confident, poised and in love with Jesus. My single status is not something to be looked down upon. Like my pastor said, “someone else’s reality doesn’t have to be your reality”.



I read an article that was quite offensive some years ago. The article was addressed to married men and it talked about how you should act around single women. In many ways, I do believe in boundaries. I personally don’t feel comfortable having an in depth personal conversation with a married man without the wife present. The article portrayed single women as desperate piranhas that were deadly poison that a person needed to avoid at all cost.

I am a business woman, and a therapist; so it is not that I only interact with women. I have to interact and counsel men, women and children alike. However, there has to be boundaries. Boundaries make me feel comfortable, and should make you feel comfortable. I don’t want my good to be evil spoken of. I am not into married men. I am not into ex-wives, baby mamas, or inappropriate mother relationships. I will explain, there are some men that are so close to their mothers; the mother basically has the wife role. When you get together with the man, the mother doesn’t embrace you as a daughter, but sees you as competition.

I honestly pray that when I meet my husband, and I meet his mother, I gain a second mother, not someone who sees me as someone to compete with. Two women should never be in competition for one man, it will never work. If I am ever put in that situation I won’t be in it for long, because I will be done with him and his mother. I am just saying the truth. I don’t do drama or foolishness of such. If a man will allow competition between you and his mama, ladies leave him alone with him and his mama.

I counseled a woman who was going through a separation from her husband. As we talked, she discussed with me how every time they got into an argument, he would run to his family. She discussed how it got to the point where his family would start intervening in their marriage. She recognized that there was no such thing as a perfect marriage, but a deciding factor that contributed to their separation was that he never set boundaries with his family. Her family respected her decision to marry and didn’t intervene.

She tried to set boundaries with his family however, they were unsuccessful. As a man, it was his responsibility to set boundaries with his family. Meaning, he shouldn’t run to his family, and he shouldn’t allow them to intervene in their arguments. If they had a problem with her, then he should have set the boundary that they are not to talk bad about his wife in his presence. My point is, when you go from single to married, there has to be boundaries. There is a difference between walls and boundaries. All healthy relationships must have boundaries.

The positive thing about being single much longer than the rest, is that you do have time on your own, if you don’t have boundaries in your single life, you won’t be able to establish and maintain boundaries in your married life.

So singleness is not a time of desperation. We must define what single is by learning what single is not. Let us start with two different definitions. It is important to note that we deal with two different definitions of single, how God defines single and how the world defines single.

First the world defines single as not married, or not in a committed relationship, or alone.

God defines single as set apart, consecrated for God’s use. It means to be given special privilege or care due to the quality of who you are and the purpose God has called you to. I know this sounds confusing, but go with me. Single means set apart for God’s divine use.



First the bible says that singleness is a gift from God.

1 Corinthians 7:7-8 (NKJV)

7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that.

8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am;

Some people say that singles can’t counsel married people. I disagree, if a person is being used by the Holy Spirit they can counsel singles and married. Two main examples were Jesus and the Apostle Paul. Jesus was a single man, and never married while on earth. Apostle Paul never married, but gave some of the most profound advice to married and single people.

Although as a part of my counseling practice I typically do not counsel married couples. My focus in counseling is trauma recovery. More than likely if someone were to contact me solely for marriage counseling alone, I would have to decline and refer them elsewhere.

However, the point is singleness is a gift. As stated when you are single, you have more time to allow God to develop you in business, ministry, and purpose. I say this because ideally when a person gets married, they should have their own lives, they should be in a position to look at their lives and each bring something to the table, including assets. Meaning, you should be able to have the conversation, “this is what I already possess and this is what I bring to the table” and the other person vice versa.

You should have something established in your own life to be able to have a place to comfortably house your gift. Particularly for men. Women your emotions, spirit, materials should be an asset and not a liability. I always said when I was going through my process that I wanted my husband to say he was glad he met me, not he regretted ever meeting me.

Notice in the beginning of the bible, when God gave Eve to Adam, he first established Adam as having a relationship with Him first. He established him in purpose next, he walked in authority as a man on his own and then he had a place to stay. Then God said, “it is not good of man to be alone.”

I know of several young couples as I was growing up; who had never lived on their own, were living with their parents, had never had any major bills on their own, didn’t own cars, and yet were engaged to be married. As my mother said, “you got all these plans but you don’t own a bucket to pee or pot to throw it out in.” That is an old fashion way of saying you are making big plans but are not established in anything.

Yes we desire to get married, but singleness is a time where you are preparing for ministry and or operating ministry. Marriage is the most prestige ministry that ever existed, it is also the oldest. Before there was pastoral ministry, apostolic ministry, prophetic ministry there was marriage ministry. Adam was in the single category before God made him married.

In your single life, you are accumulating assets and wealth. I am not using wealth to mean you have to be rich. I am saying you are accumulating spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial stability to be able to handle the gift God is sending into your life.

Single is a wonderful time of growth, wholeness, learning your relationship with God, learning to depend on Him.

In fact, just last night I heard the Lord say, “I will not share my glory with another.” I realize that often time we are guilty of idolatry. Meaning, God has to share a space in our heart with other things. We substitute God’s love for career, success, people, cars, you name it. The thought came to me that you can make a false god out of just about anything. I realize that I had to be checked by God. He was telling me that until my dependency was on Him and Him alone, He would not allow anything, or anyone else to share space in my heart.

God had to take me through a season of singleness, where I could depend on no one else but Him. Everything, every person, that I put my faith in failed so I had to learn that Jesus was my everything including my source.

This is profound, because you learn the art of being single while, single. You learn who you are and whose you are in God. When you marry, your relationship with God doesn’t go away. You still know God has your source, He just may use your spouse to supply a need, but He is the provider.

This is so important because let’s be honest, singles, sometimes it is hard. I had an incident a few weeks ago where something needed fixing on my car. One day I get in my car to head to work, and as I turned the key in the ignition, the car doesn’t start.

Being a single woman, if there are two things I know nothing about that is cars and mechanics. I have a genuine distrust of mechanics and car salesmen believe it or not. I talked to my father on the phone and he tells me if I take it to the dealer they are going to charge me dealer prices. I love my dad, but that didn’t help. By the way I live in North Carolina my family lives in Maryland. It is not like my dad can tell me what mechanic to go to or he could go with me to the dealer.

The point is, I was in a panic because my car wouldn’t start. I was scheduled for clients that I had to cancel at the last minute. I didn’t have the enormous amount of money the dealer wanted just to get it fixed. I had no help and no one to call. Yes I admit, as poised and confident as I was, I was afraid. I knew what the scripture said about God being the provider. I knew every scripture, but in this situation I didn’t know what to do. It was a major test in learning to trust God in a deeper way.

The first thought that came in was “if I had a husband he could take care of all of this for me.” The reality is I don’t, now what?

My point is, I have learned and am learning to trust God even in my singleness. God is my source, He is my husband. He supplies my need.

By the way, I got my car fixed. I was out some money but at least I had a working car. However, I want to show you how God works.

After I got my car fixed, I had some visitors over my home. As we were all hanging out one particular person said he had something to tell me. He said, I had to receive it.

You know what I am thinking right? What is wrong? Well this individual says, I had a dream about a week ago and I have to do something.

This individual hands me a significant amount of money. This individual said a week ago he had a dream and in the dream God told him to sow a seed into my life and he did.

My point is, while I was trying to figure it out, God had already worked it out. He had already had someone to bless me, while I was stressing for nothing. My point is, that was another lesson for me.

When I get to another dimension in ministry, I will remember how God provided a way. When I am married, and myself and husband are experiencing something we won’t have a clue what to do. Guess what? I have already been prepared in my singleness how to trust God. I can say confidently to my husband, we are going to trust God. Instead of going into pieces and allow my emotions to rule. In your singleness, is a time to learn to how to not allow your emotions to lead.

That is just one example of many. I learned God is my source in my single life. I have had checks come in the mail. I remember one time I had a random check in the mail for thousands of dollars. I was so excited I didn’t spend it; my plan was to put it away for another time. Literally the next week, I unexpectantly had to have emergency surgery on my tooth, I had to pay out of pocket for the entire procedure. You can’t tell me God didn’t provide for me.

My point is, singleness is a time of learning and for complete dependency on God. You are powerful when you truly know in your heart, God is your provider.

Let’s briefly discuss what singleness is not.

As stated, singleness is not a time of desperation.

There is a difference between being lonely and single. Lonely is an emotional state that comes upon you as a result of depression not being single. Just because someone is alone or single doesn’t mean they are lonely. I don’t know about you, but I love hanging out with myself. I am naturally an introvert, but the revelation and experiences God gives me in my alone time with Him I wouldn’t trade for the world.

As stated, you are not single if you are living single, but having sex outside of marriage. As stated, you are a sinner. Successful singles are not out having sex.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 (NKJV)

18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?

20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body[a] and in your spirit, which are God’s.

You are not a successful Christian, nor are you are successfully single, if you are living outside the precepts clearly set by God Himself.

Actions speak louder than words. You can say you love God all day and night, the only proof that you love God is if you keep His commandments. You don’t love God if you are engaging in fornication.

Matthew 5:28 (NKJV)

28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

John 14:15 (NKJV)

15 “If you love Me, keep[a] My commandments.

John 14:23 (NKJV)

23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him.

Romans 12:1 (KJV)

12 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

Don’t let wrong theology fool you. You can’t intentionally live in sin and think you are going to make it to heaven.

1 Corinthians 6:9-11(NKJV)

9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals,[a] nor sodomites,

10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.

You can call it what you want, if you are single having sex, you are a fornicator; and clearly scripture says you will not make it to heaven.

We serve God and live holy because we love Him; not because we are trying to earn our spot in heaven or His love. But don’t get it confused when you continue to intentionally sin, you prove you are not a child of God and if you don’t repent and stop you, will go to hell. If you are participating in these behaviors, you are single by title only, not by actions. It is your actions that prove who you are and who you belong to, not what you claim.

You’re not single in your heart if you are married in your mind. What does that mean? I am glad you asked.

It means, if you are carrying the hurts from your past relationship, past friendships, ex’s who did you wrong, you are not single by God’s definition.

I worked with an individual who had just left a relationship that was tumultuous, but they never seemed to be done with each other. They would always end up reconnecting after a time of separation. Eventually she started dating other people, but never quite ended the relationship with her ex.

It was clear that she still had feelings for her ex. The reality is, she wasn’t ready to date because her heart hadn’t closed the door from the previous relationship.

If you are still communicating with your ex; and when he calls your heart still jumps or flutters; if you still hang out on occasion, then you are not yet single.

I don’t believe in having ex’s as friends. You can care about someone, but that doesn’t mean you still have a relationship with that person. I had a friend who did me very dirty years ago. I am the kind of person that when I am done with you, I am done with you. However, after the anger subsided, I realized that I don’t have any ill will or hard feelings towards this person. I genuinely still care; that is my human nature. I believe in forgiving, that doesn’t mean you forget and allow yourself to be misused again.


Every now and again, I hear from mutual friends about how this person is doing. I am genuinely happy for them and their success. However, we will never be friends again. Just because I forgive and move on, doesn’t mean we are going to sit down and have dinner together. We will never hang out together. Why? Because that door is closed.

If you still keep communicating with an ex, going out with them etc, then the relationship is not a closed door. The only way you should communicate with an ex is if children are involved. I personally don’t date men with children. That is my personal choice; to each is his own.

My point is, you are single in title only if you are still friends with an ex or have any form of communication with them.

That doesn’t mean when you see that person in passing you act ugly. You can be cordial and speak. In the case of that ex friend, when I see this individual I speak and ask about how things are going? To be cordial, there is no hard feelings, but as stated, that is a closed door. You can’t be believing God for open doors still hanging on to doors that God has told you to close, it won’t work.

That is why if you have gone through a break up, you need to be by yourself for a while. Don’t go from one relationship into another relationship. You need to heal. You need time to be alone. In my experience as a counselor most often if there has not been a transition period what happens is you take the old drama from a past relationship into the next one. Often times, couples are not fighting each other, they are fighting their past exes, in a new relationship.

We unlearn in stages. You have to not allow the hurt from the previous relationship into your new relationship.

I counseled a young lady who was previously in an abusive relationship for five years. In the relationship, she was physically, emotionally and sexually assaulted many times. Eventually she broke free from that relationship. Eventually she met a different man who never put his hands on her, never abused her in anyway. However, she still felt the after effects of the previous relationship. When they did argue, which all couples do at some point, she would make assumptions. She would be ready for the worse. She was waiting for him to insult her or pack up and leave. None of which he ever did. Why? Because that was the pattern of her old man.

It is not possible to think that you will never experience any after effects of a previous relationship in a new relationship. However, it is important to know the longer you stay single, detached, you allow God and the Holy Spirit to heal those broken places in your heart. So that a new spouse is not having to make up for what the old person did.

Do yourself a favor, stay single until God releases you. He will make sure you’re ready. Often times we think we are ready long before we actually are. Only God knows when you are ready.

Close that door, don’t keep hanging out with an ex expecting God to bring you a new man.

Plus ladies you are giving men the wrong message. A real man pursues a woman, not the other way around. We will talk more about that in other chapters.

However, men are created to pursue to go after what they want. So if you keep receiving gifts from an ex, going out to dinner with them, talking to him on the phone. You are giving a man hope that there is still a chance. My dad taught me and my sisters growing up, never to accept a gift from a man, it means something.

A man will never give you a gift because he is that generous. He is trying to get in good graces with you. You have to know in your knower that this is not God’s will and make it clear to him. Sometimes you love someone enough, but know they are not good for you and you are not good for them. Love them enough to let them go. Release them so that they get healed and find who God has for them. The reality is, that person is clearly not you.

It doesn’t take away from who you are as a person. It doesn’t mean you are a failure. It doesn’t mean you are not worthy. It simply means that was not the person for you. You can’t release them, still accepting their gift and request to commune with you. Do yourself a favor, let it go!

You’ll be happy you did, particularly when God sends the God ordained person into your life.

However, again as stated God will never release who He has for you into your life, when you are hanging on to what was.

Lastly, you are not truly single and free to date or marry someone else, if you have been married before.

Matthew 5:31-32 (NKJV)

Marriage Is Sacred and Binding

31 “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’

32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality[a] causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery

Matthew 5:31-32 (NLT)

Teaching about Divorce

31 “You have heard the law that says, ‘A man can divorce his wife by merely giving her a written notice of divorce.’[a]

32 But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.

Luke 16:18 (NLT)

18 “For example, a man who divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery. And anyone who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery

Mark 10:11-12 (NLT)

11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her.

12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.”

Romans 7:3 (NLT)

3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing adultery if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit adultery when she remarries.

Jeremiah 3:1 (NLT)

3 “If a man divorces a woman

and she goes and marries someone else,

he will not take her back again,

for that would surely corrupt the land.

But you have prostituted yourself with many lovers,

so why are you trying to come back to me?”

says the Lord.

The scripture is self-explanatory. You can read it for yourself if it pricks your heart and you do not believe it. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal truth to you and He will confirm what I am stating to be true.

So how did we get to divorce? First in the text above, Jesus is doing what He does, teach kingdom principles. He then starts teaching about divorce and remarriage.

Jesus clearly states that divorce came back in the day with Moses. Moses instituted the accepting of divorce because of the hardness of the people’s heart, but God never gave us permission to divorce then and He doesn’t give us permission to do so now. I know it is a hard pill to swallow but look at the scripture again.

Mark 10:2-12 (NLT)

2 Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife?”

3 Jesus answered them with a question: “What did Moses say in the law about divorce?”

4 “Well, he permitted it,” they replied. “He said a man can give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away.”[a]

5 But Jesus responded, “He wrote this commandment only as a concession to your hard hearts.

6 But ‘God made them male and female’[b] from the beginning of creation.

7 ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife,[c]

8 and the two are united into one.’[d] Since they are no longer two but one,

9 let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

10 Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again.

11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her.

12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.”

You are not free to get married if you are divorced.

Lastly, you are not free to marry if you are not single. I know that sounds strange. However, I knew a minister of the gospel. While she was having marital troubles that were long standing, she told me how God told her He would bless her with a godly man.

Again, the issue is she was married at the time. Well she ended up divorcing her husband and marrying another minister. First, God will never contradict His word. God is not going to change His word because we don’t agree with it. God is not going to send you someone else’s wife or husband.

So how should someone deal with an unbelieving spouse?

1 Corinthians 7:12-17 (NLT)

12 Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a fellow believer[a] has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her.

13 And if a believing woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him.

14 For the believing wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the believing husband[b] brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not be holy, but now they are holy.

15 (But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the believing husband or wife[c] is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you[d] to live in peace.)

16 Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don’t you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you?

17 Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches.

The word of God is clear concerning these things.

Ideally, a Christian should never marry an unbeliever. However, there are instances where you are already married and your spouse gets saved or vice versa. That doesn’t mean you leave your spouse because you get saved. They may be uncomfortable to live with, but allow God to save them, you be the example.


2 Corinthians 6:14-16 (NLT)

The Temple of the Living God

14 Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?

15 What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil[a]? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever?

16 And what union can there be between God’s temple and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God said:

“I will live in them

and walk among them.

I will be their God,

and they will be my people.[b


2 Corinthians 6:14-16(NKJV)

14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?

15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?

16 And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you[a] are the temple of the living God. As God has said:

“I will dwell in them

And walk among them.

I will be their God,

And they shall be My people.”[b]

Just because someone is in church, doesn’t mean they are Christian. Satan and demons go to good, sanctified churches every Sunday. Just because someone is a Christian doesn’t mean you are fit to be together. Many people define Christianity differently.

A man should be the priest of his home. If he can’t pastor you or lead you, then he is not for you. Just because we are two Christians doesn’t mean we are equally yoked. If a man doesn’t have a relationship with God outside of you ladies, he is not for you. If he is only going to church to impress you, then he is not for you.

There was this crazy movie that came our years ago, called I Am In Love With A Church Girl. The movie was heresy at best. The main character basically only starts going to church because of the other main character, who is a female. In the movie, it turns our great. I know it was based on a true story.

However let me caution you, I have seen this time and time again, it will not work in your favor. Once a man has you, he more than likely will go back to who he is. If you have to lead a man to the alter, you will have to lead him to keep a relationship with God.

That is not a woman’s role, to spiritually carry a man. I don’t know about you, but I want a man that is in love for Jesus and Jesus alone, long before He ever meets me. He needs to be in love with Jesus so much that God has to shine the light on him to who I am. Meaning, a woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek God in order to get her heart.

There is a new trend going on where so called saved men, date and marry women whose relationship with God is questionable. Again, I highly caution you men do not go down this road. You can ask Ahab in the bible what happens when a man is committed to God, yet hooks up with a beautiful woman who has a questionable relationship with God. Devastation is the consequence.

This is why you have to have standards. Again men, a woman should have a solid relationship with God and the Holy Spirit long before she has ever met you. A beautiful mind, or face doesn’t equate to a relationship with God. Some church heals, and nice makeup doesn’t make a woman fit to be your spouse. Just because she can cook and clean doesn’t mean she should be your wife.

What does her relationship with God look like outside of you? I personally believe a man shouldn’t even approach a beautiful woman immediately he may be interested in. He should do like Boaz and sit back and observe her. The truth will eventually come out as to who she really is. Then after studying and observing her character then approach her. Remember the demon Jezebel came in beautiful clothes.

Nice clothes can’t cover up an ugly personality or someone with damaged emotions. Nice clothes, a beautiful waist and pristine appearance can’t cover up a demonic spirit. Eventually it will show its true colors and show you who it is, but if you are already in relationship or your heart is involved it will be much too late.

This is so important men of God; because in my observation, great men of God are more susceptible to this form of a deception, because you naturally attract beautiful women. The anointing attracts, you can be an ordinary man of God, but when the anointing starts revealing itself, then you become more than just ordinarily attractive. Then women are flocking to you left and right. Again, you don’t want to be deceived by a pretty face.

Particularly if you are in ministry. You need a woman who has a relationship with God. You can’t be trying to fight demons in your own house. You need a woman who has a prayer life, who knows how to hear from God. You need a woman who has found herself in God. She knows how to pray for and over her husband.

If not you will be like Moses who time after time, kept having to come down the mountain to deal with people of Israel’s emotions. The last thing an anointed man needs is a woman who is emotionally unstable. She never met God or truly knew Him until she found you. That is not a good thing. We will talk about divine connections versus divine distractions in a later chapter. Note that satan sends divine distractions through the company you keep.

Proverbs 21:9 (NKJV)

9 Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop,

Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.

Proverbs 21:9 (KJV)

9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

Contentious means causing or likely to cause an argument; controversial, involving heated argument (of a person) given to arguing or provoking argument. Brawling means fight or quarrel in a rough or noisy way.

A woman that doesn’t know when to shut up is not a woman you want. I know I may have offended the women reading this. I am not saying that women don’t have a voice and shouldn’t be heard. I am saying a wise woman knows when to be quiet. Men you want a woman with a peaceful quiet spirit, not a woman who is going to boss you around. Women should be confident in their own femininity not in another.




Look what the scripture says.

1 Peter 3:4 (KJV)

4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

When I read this scripture my spirit leaped, because all my life I have been quiet. I am a quiet, but confident woman. When I read this scripture it gave me confidence to know that I am just the way God created me to be.

Yesterday I was at the gym, and it just so happened that Basketball Wives was on. I never watch television anymore so the show is foreign to me. However, I noticed these women, perfect bodies, perfect shapes, make up was flawless. However, all I saw was cursing over every other word. Fighting over who said what about who. Crazy stuff that I hadn’t dealt with since I was in middle school, many years ago.

My point is, don’t tell me contentious woman don’t exist. I am not saying that a woman should be so subservient, and quiet that she doesn’t have a brain. I am saying a good wise woman knows how to speak, to be heard, not to fight.

A true wise woman knows that when she does open her mouth to speak or give wise counsel, she is heard because when she opens her mouth she says something of worth or value.

Does that mean we as woman are not powerful? No! Does that mean we can’t speak our minds? No! I always say I will not follow a man into hell, or the wrong direction. Does that mean your voice cannot be heard? No! I personally don’t want a man who doesn’t value my thoughts, opinions or voice in this world.

Isaiah 30:15 (KJV)

15 For thus saith the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel; In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength: and ye would not.

Isaiah 32:17 (KJV)

17 And the work of righteousness shall be peace; and the effect of righteousness quietness and assurance for ever.

When the Holy Spirit is in you He will quiet your spirit. When Holy Spirit is in you, you learn not to fight about everything; you speak as the Lord, and let Him fight the battle.

Proverbs 15:1 (KJV)

15 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

A woman of God is powerful, anointed, walks in authority, dominion, power and prays with a quiet spirit.

I hope you hear me, we as women are powerful beyond belief. We are anointed, appointed and called of God. We are not less than a man. In fact, in the beginning when God made Adam and Eve he was quoted saying, He gave Adam a woman, that was, “comparable to Him.” Genesis 2:18.

However, we have to come to each other with mutual respect. Men and women receive and honor each other in different ways.

Ideally, a woman should affirm a man’s masculinity. A man should protect a woman’s femininity so she doesn’t have to come out of character to feel heard or respected. We will talk this is another chapter.

Men, if a woman doesn’t have a real relationship with God she may appear to affirm your manhood, but really, she is a seductive spirit, familiar spirit that is sent to distract your destiny.

A woman of God doesn’t dress like a harlot. The Holy Spirit on the inside of her, will tell her to dress like she is a woman of honor. She needs to dress like she owns the company, not like she is walking the street trying to solicit customers if you know what I am saying.

A real woman honors herself long before she ever meets you. I could go on, but let us talk about you women.

You women don’t want a contentious or a brawling man. You don’t want a man that is emotionally unstable, this is where you get insecure, controlling men from. They have no back bone. A woman of God doesn’t find Ahab or his friends attractive.

A true Christian woman doesn’t find thug love attractive either. You have to be careful women because if you truly are a woman of virtue, a man will be attracted to that virtue Christian or not. However, you are like a diamond if he is not qualified to handle you, the result can and will be devastating. Ever have a beautiful friend, with a beautiful mind and spirit, who you see with the wrong guy? I know someone that is beautiful inside and out. She has a heart of gold. Yet for years she has been married to a contentious, brawling man. Her life is miserable. A beautiful soul who got caught up with the wrong man.

For me, I naturally have an anointing to counsel. That is my God given gift. I am also a virtuous woman. I am not bragging I am just confident in who I am. I am nice, sometimes too nice, to a fault. My nature is to build people up and encourage them. However, I have to be careful because I will attract a man who needs my counseling anointing. I counsel men all the time, but I am professional in every sense of the word.


Just because I gave a man a smile and treated him with respect doesn’t mean you get access to my heart. I don’t find an emotionally or mentally unstable man attractive. I have to be careful because it is my virtue that attracts. My femininity is what makes me who I am. My kind nature is of value. My peaceful spirit draws.


It however, doesn’t make me stupid, or naive. I have to know who I am. When a man is attracted to me, I know what and who I am. I ask myself what does this person bring to the table? How would you contribute to my life in anyway? I am not interested in mothering, babying a grown man. I am not interested in counseling a grown man in my personal life. Counseling is my profession, not my personal life.

In fact, I had an incident a couple weeks ago, of a man being attracted to me. He had no chance on this earth of remotely dating me. It may sound bushy or stuck up, but sometimes a person needs to just check themselves in order to not get their feelings hurt.

Once again, I met this man in a professional setting. I don’t disclose anything about me at all. All I do is do what I do, be myself. I treat him with respect and dignity. Not because I want him because that is the virtue and the Holy Spirit in me that treats people the way I want to be treated.

Well sometimes, a person can think your kind nature is more than what it is. Like my pastor says just because someone smiles at you doesn’t mean they want you.

So as we go on, I guess he notices that every time he is around me I am kind and genuinely concerned. That is what I do as a therapist. He starts asking me questions about my personal life, wanting to take me out to dinner and a movie.

So after a while of me declining his request to get to know me. I was clearly not interested. He keeps at it. Mind you, I don’t mind when a man approaches me or is attracted to me that is a part of our human nature. The problem comes when I clearly shut you down and you don’t take no for an answer. Then I have to cut all ties because you are making me feel uncomfortable. I have never been Shaniqua with the attitude problem, but if a person keeps trying me then I will have to tell you about yourself.

I know who I am and whose I am. I am not settling for less. A little secret about me is that if a person gets too close to me, and you are not someone I am interested in. If you keep trying me, then I am done with you, and when I say I am done, I am done.

I know I sound mean, but let me tell you about him. This man is about 15 years older than me. He has spent time in prison, cusses like a street sailor, has no job, has kids he hasn’t seen in years. He is a convicted felon, on probation and basically sits around his house all day long smoking marijuana. There is nothing about him that is a Christian. He is genuinely a negative person to just about everything and everyone.

I treated him with respect and kindness, however he clearly is way out of his league. Why in the world would I want him?

Proverbs 25:19 (KJV)

19 Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble is like a broken tooth, and a foot out of joint.

My point is, my virtue attracts. I showed him respect even though I don’t agree with his lifestyle. He thought my kindness meant something that it clearly was not.

Not in this lifetime will I ever date a man that is not a Christian, not really even close to seeking God, no job, no purpose, smoking weed, kids, baby mamas, ex-wives and ex-girlfriends, or ex-cons. No sir! All that weed smoking clearly had his mind cloudy. Not to mention nothing about him is what I remotely find attractive.

My point is, I know who I am. I know whose I am, because a part of my counseling ministry is to the unchurched, I show mercy and kindness to the unchurched without really even trying. I am just myself.

Men like that don’t need a woman in their lives they need their mother and a place to stay. My home is not for the homeless, the needy or the hungry. It sounds funny, but we all know that woman who will work two and three jobs, while having a big grown man sitting at home on the couch watching television. That is crazy. Scripture says if a man doesn’t work he doesn’t eat.

2 Thessalonians 3:10 (NKJV)

10 For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: If anyone will not work, neither shall he eat.

He clearly was messing with the wrong one.

My point is, as a single person you can’t be naive. You can’t be so gullible that you don’t see the enemy when he is approaching. The enemy knows that men are more visual so he will send you a beautiful woman. She is really a wolf in sheep’s clothes.

The enemy knows that a virtuous woman wants a strong man who can handle your anointing. So he may send you someone who looks and acts the part. However, in the case of that man, that wasn’t even close to deception on my part. It was foolery on his part to even think about me like that.

The point is, as you grow in your singleness, you develop confidence in who you are. You know what you are willing to accept. You can hear God’s voice in such a profound way, you know whose, who and what is what because God reveals it.

I don’t know about you, I already have preset standards. I don’t have to sit down with you, have long conversations and dinner with you to know you are not the one for me. Because I serve God in such a way He knows how to speak to me when you first walk in the room.

I had a friend. She met this guy and he liked her. I will never forget it, the first time I saw him. I hadn’t’ even spoken to the man, I just looked at him. I heard the Holy Spirit say, “He is not the one for her, she needs to leave him alone.” Well she didn’t listen. Turns out many years later, she comes back to me and says I was completely right.

I know of another young lady. She went on a date with this man. That night the Lord spoke to her in a dream. She saw him physically abusing her and beating her. She knew that was God telling her to leave him alone. She did. This young lady is happily married to the man of her dreams. Not to mention, he is a godly man of integrity and honor.

Again, when you are single, you are confident and can hear God’s voice. You know who you are. You want what God wants for you not what your flesh wants. If you can’t walk in integrity while you are single, you will have difficulty while married.

It is better to stay single and wait on God. Marriage does not deliver you from a lust problem, God does. This is why you have married couples, who have spouses addicted to drugs or pornography. Marriage doesn’t fix lust.

You must learn and be okay with being alone. If you don’t like your own company why should someone else?

I could go on, but I am going to end it here. Know that there is honor and value in being single. It doesn’t mean you won’t get married. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t desire marriage. However, don’t compromise your standards. It is better to live in peace.

The more happy and whole you are in your single life, the better you will be married. Let God be your everything, and He will give you the desires of your heart.

1 Corinthians 2:9New King James Version (NKJV)

9 But as it is written:

“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,

Nor have entered into the heart of man

The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.”[a

However, you can’t claim God’s promises when it is time to be blessed, and not go through His principles. You will only get to God’s promises by following His plan. The reality is, there are some of us who are single, for what appears to be no rhyme or reason, but it is a part of God’s plan.

Lastly I forgot to mention, God does not acknowledge nor does He honor same sex marriages. You are not free to marry someone of the same sex according to the laws of God. Homosexuality, lesbianism, LGBT is not of God. You can’t believe God for a spouse of the same sex. Nope! God will not do it.

Samaria M Colbert © 2016

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Psychological Warfare: How Wars Are Won And Lost

Posted by Samaria Maria Colbert on December 14, 2016 at 8:45 PM

2 Chronicles 20:15 (NKJV)

15 And he said, “Listen, all you of Judah and you inhabitants of Jerusalem, and you, King Jehoshaphat! Thus says the Lord to you: ‘Do not be afraid nor dismayed because of this great multitude, for the battle is not yours, but God’s.

How spiritual wars are won and lost is very different than how carnal wars are won and lost? In carnal wars regardless of the kind of war, there are no real winners or losers in my opinion. Often times the causalities of wars are so large to me it is almost as if it was not worth fighting.

As stated, every battle first starts in the mind. After it starts in the mind, it then impacts our emotions, then our will. So what happens is the enemy places a thought in our mind, we meditate on it. It then starts to take over our emotions, meaning how we feel, then we begin to act on it. Success starts in the mind. Victory starts in the mind. You will never win in any area in life, unless you first see it in your mind.

Proverbs 23:7 (NKJV)

7 For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.

The enemy wants you to see yourself through his eyes, not the eyes of the Father. So he starts by waging war in the mind.

In the natural, the superior army wins for different reasons. Some reasons being a stronger, more skilled set of soldiers. Other reasons could be a better strategy or plan to defeat the enemy. Other reasons could be pure deceit. In my opinion, in a natural war no one really wins, we just calm down for years, then the same war begins, with different people. The American Gulf war is a primary example.

In natural wars, war then invokes greater wars. Battles are never really won through shed blood. What it leaves is dissention, humiliation and death. What the lost then invokes is underlying bitterness, resentment and that leads to great desires for revenge. As stated, the spirit of war lies beneath the surface and the feelings are hidden. You know the natural war continues because we simply fight again. We just change the name to identify the difference in the war. Mainly it is for the same reason, different battle, same spirits. Spirits never die, they just lie dormant until the next opportunity. I know I am talking about physical battles, but understand there is always an underlying spirit related to every war. This is why when you physically fight battles no one ever wins. You can’t fight wars with physical weapons. Yet throughout history we repeatedly see war after war, time after time, century after century.

Again same war, same spirit, different name.

However in Christ, there is a strategy from God to win every war. God never said we as Christians would never have to fight, He did promise that if we stick with Him and apply His strategies we would win.

Battles and wars in Christ, always have a beginning, a middle and an end. The war first and for most is always for the battle for your soul. It is then for the advancement of the kingdom of God. However, if you can’t win private battles, you won’t be able to win public wars.

In fact, scripture teaches us that when you hear of increase in wars and great desolation, this is an indication that the end is near.

Matthew 24:6-13 (NKJV)

6 And you will hear of wars and rumors of wars. See that you are not troubled; for all[a] these things must come to pass, but the end is not yet.

7 For nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. And there will be famines, pestilences,[b] and earthquakes in various places.

8 All these are the beginning of sorrows.

9 “Then they will deliver you up to tribulation and kill you, and you will be hated by all nations for My name’s sake.

10 And then many will be offended, will betray one another, and will hate one another.

11 Then many false prophets will rise up and deceive many.

12 And because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold.

13 But he who endures to the end shall be saved.

Although the scripture in Matthew is indicative of national chaos, we must understand, that if we are experiencing these things around us; that we first must deal with the internal struggle, going on inside of us. The war is for your soul, and many souls like you.

If we are going to be ready we must be prepared. However, remember I said in Christ we have victory over the strategy of the enemy. In Him we win wars!

First every battle from God starts with an enemy, however, there is always strategy from God. Let start by going back to the scripture in 2 Chronicles about Jehoshaphat.

2 Chronicles 20:1-30The Message (MSG)

20 1-2 Sometime later the Moabites and Ammonites, accompanied by Meunites, joined forces to make war on Jehoshaphat. Jehoshaphat received this intelligence report: “A huge force is on its way from beyond the Dead Sea to fight you. There’s no time to waste—they’re already at Hazazon Tamar, the oasis of En Gedi.”

3-4 Shaken, Jehoshaphat prayed. He went to God for help and ordered a nationwide fast. The country of Judah united in seeking God’s help—they came from all the cities of Judah to pray to God.

5-9 Then Jehoshaphat took a position before the assembled people of Judah and Jerusalem at The Temple of God in front of the new courtyard and said, “O God, God of our ancestors, are you not God in heaven above and ruler of all kingdoms below? You hold all power and might in your fist—no one stands a chance against you! And didn’t you make the natives of this land leave as you brought your people Israel in, turning it over permanently to your people Israel, the descendants of Abraham your friend? They have lived here and built a holy house of worship to honor you, saying, ‘When the worst happens—whether war or flood or disease or famine—and we take our place before this Temple (we know you are personally present in this place!) and pray out our pain and trouble, we know that you will listen and give victory.’

10-12 “And now it’s happened: men from Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir have shown up. You didn’t let Israel touch them when we got here at first—we detoured around them and didn’t lay a hand on them. And now they’ve come to kick us out of the country you gave us. O dear God, won’t you take care of them? We’re helpless before this vandal horde ready to attack us. We don’t know what to do; we’re looking to you.”

13 Everyone in Judah was there—little children, wives, sons—all present and attentive to God.

14-17 Then Jahaziel was moved by the Spirit of God to speak from the midst of the congregation. (Jahaziel was the son of Zechariah, the son of Benaiah, the son of Jeiel, the son of Mattaniah the Levite of the Asaph clan.) He said, “Attention everyone—all of you from out of town, all you from Jerusalem, and you King Jehoshaphat—God’s word: Don’t be afraid; don’t pay any mind to this vandal horde. This is God’s war, not yours. Tomorrow you’ll go after them; see, they’re already on their way up the slopes of Ziz; you’ll meet them at the end of the ravine near the wilderness of Jeruel. You won’t have to lift a hand in this battle; just stand firm, Judah and Jerusalem, and watch God’s saving work for you take shape. Don’t be afraid, don’t waver. March out boldly tomorrow—God is with you.”

18-19 Then Jehoshaphat knelt down, bowing with his face to the ground. All Judah and Jerusalem did the same, worshiping God. The Levites (both Kohathites and Korahites) stood to their feet to praise God, the God of Israel; they praised at the top of their lungs!

20 They were up early in the morning, ready to march into the wilderness of Tekoa. As they were leaving, Jehoshaphat stood up and said, “Listen Judah and Jerusalem! Listen to what I have to say! Believe firmly in God, your God, and your lives will be firm! Believe in your prophets and you’ll come out on top!”

21 After talking it over with the people, Jehoshaphat appointed a choir for God; dressed in holy robes, they were to march ahead of the troops, singing,

Give thanks to God,

His love never quits.

22-23 As soon as they started shouting and praising, God set ambushes against the men of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir as they were attacking Judah, and they all ended up dead. The Ammonites and Moabites mistakenly attacked those from Mount Seir and massacred them. Then, further confused, they went at each other, and all ended up killed.

24 As Judah came up over the rise, looking into the wilderness for the horde of barbarians, they looked on a killing field of dead bodies—not a living soul among them.

25-26 When Jehoshaphat and his people came to carry off the plunder they found more loot than they could carry off—equipment, clothing, valuables. It took three days to cart it away! On the fourth day they came together at the Valley of Blessing (Beracah) and blessed God (that’s how it got the name, Valley of Blessing).

27-28 then led all the men of Judah and Jerusalem back to Jerusalem—an exuberant parade. God had given them joyful relief from their enemies! They entered Jerusalem and came to The Temple of God with all the instruments of the band playing.

29-30 When the surrounding kingdoms got word that God had fought Israel’s enemies, the fear of God descended on them. Jehoshaphat heard no more from them; as long as Jehoshaphat reigned, peace reigned.

Look at the strategy of the enemy. The enemy first decided to make war with God’s people. Isn’t it ironic, it didn’t say the God’s people invoked war. This is how the enemy does, sometimes you are in a battle not because you have done something wrong, but because you have done something right. The next thing that Jehoshaphat did was to pray and seek God. He then called a corporate fast. He then spoke with boldness and authority declaring the word of the Lord. He then said this is not our battle but the Lord’s.

Every battle you will overcome we must first start with seeking God’s face. We then start with declaring the word of God. Jehoshaphat was able to hear from God. There is always a strategy of war. However, the answer is found in God. Let us look at another example.

Again in the example we will read, I want you to take note here that it always started with an enemy.

Judges 6:1-6The Message (MSG)


6 1-6 Yet again the People of Israel went back to doing evil in God’s sight. God put them under the domination of Midian for seven years. Midian overpowered Israel. Because of Midian, the People of Israel made for themselves hideouts in the mountains—caves and forts. When Israel planted its crops, Midian and Amalek, the easterners, would invade them, camp in their fields, and destroy their crops all the way down to Gaza. They left nothing for them to live on, neither sheep nor ox nor donkey. Bringing their cattle and tents, they came in and took over, like an invasion of locusts. And their camels—past counting! They marched in and devastated the country. The People of Israel, reduced to grinding poverty by Midian, cried out to God for help.

The major difference in this battle; the people of God’s sin causes God to respond by allowing the enemy to have full advantage in their lives.

Romans 1:28 (KJV)

28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

That brings me to an interesting point, although I said we fight battles for doing something right. The reality is, we also fight battles and wars for doing something wrong.

Sometimes it is hard to tell. My response when I am going through something is to say, “okay God why is this happening to me? And “what am I to learn from this situation?” In the case of the book of Judges the people of Israel did evil in the sight of God.

I won’t be linger the story, I do encourage you to read it on your own time. However, regardless of the onset of the battle, God still had a plan.

Gideon ended up gathering together an army of about 32,000. That sounds like a pretty large army if you ask me. However, God did something stranger. Let us read the scripture where it left off.

Judges 7:1-8 (MSG)

7 Jerub-Baal (Gideon) got up early the next morning, all his troops right there with him. They set up camp at Harod’s Spring. The camp of Midian was in the plain, north of them near the Hill of Moreh.

2-3 God said to Gideon, “You have too large an army with you. I can’t turn Midian over to them like this—they’ll take all the credit, saying, ‘I did it all myself,’ and forget about me. Make a public announcement: ‘Anyone afraid, anyone who has any qualms at all, may leave Mount Gilead now and go home.’” Twenty-two companies headed for home. Ten companies were left.

4-5 God said to Gideon: “There are still too many. Take them down to the stream and I’ll make a final cut. When I say, ‘This one goes with you,’ he’ll go. When I say, ‘This one doesn’t go,’ he won’t go.” So Gideon took the troops down to the stream.

5-6 God said to Gideon: “Everyone who laps with his tongue, the way a dog laps, set on one side. And everyone who kneels to drink, drinking with his face to the water, set to the other side.” Three hundred lapped with their tongues from their cupped hands. All the rest knelt to drink.

7 God said to Gideon: “I’ll use the three hundred men who lapped at the stream to save you and give Midian into your hands. All the rest may go home.”

8 After Gideon took all their provisions and trumpets, he sent all the Israelites home. He took up his position with the three hundred. The camp of Midian stretched out below him in the valley.

That is a major reduction in force, any time you go from 32,000 to 300. Some of you may have missed how we got the original number of 32,000. Let me go over it. First the scripture says, all that were afraid were asked to go home, making it 10 companies left. So if 10 companies left that means 22 companies headed home. Companies consisted of persons in sets of 10’s. 32,000 (started)-22,000 (left in response to fear)=10,000. Then God said there is still too many. At the end of it they had 300, remaining. That means 9,700 kneeled drinking, disqualifying them from the fight.

I know there are some rigorous criteria to be a part of armed forces. I don’t know about you, but this one seems a bit odd. However, when you think about it, a soldier had to be alert and always aware of the enemy. You can’t be fully alert when you are drinking water like a dog versus when you use your hands, you still are drinking but conscience of the enemy.

Even now you can’t allow any vulnerability. The enemy is out to steal kill and destroy. When you read the story you will know that they did end up winning the battle, even being at a disadvantage. I won’t tell you how, you’re going to have to pick up your bible and read it.

The point is, everyone is not going to win in life or in spiritual battles. There will be some casualties of war. In spiritual war, causalities come in the form of people who turn away from God, sinners, people to compromise the gospel, Christians who get so weary they give up. People who allow discouragement to forfeit their destiny. I will never forget my Bishop in the church I attended in Maryland told us how, when we first start the battle of the Lord, we are full of vigor and strength. It is through the process of time that a soldier gets, weak, and wounded. Even though we are fighting we lose strength if not careful.

The similarities in both stories are that God had a strategy. He used man, but He would win the victory by His own hand.

How are real battles won in Christ?

Zechariah 4:6 (NKJV)

6 So he answered and said to me:

“This is the word of the Lord to Zerubbabel:

‘Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,’

Says the Lord of hosts.

That is a powerful scripture that will preach all by itself.

The key to battles won, are first submission to God. You won’t seek God if you don’t submit to Him. You need salvation in infilling of the Holy Spirit. Without the Holy Spirit you will never be able to win the battle.

This is important because without the Holy Spirit guarding and protecting us we become prey to the enemy. The enemy wants a vessel to use for his work and when you are not in right alignment in God, you will be used by the enemy. I said will be, not may be!

War are lost when we allow the enemy to overtake and overpower us through the weapons, which start in the mind.

We must put on the whole armor of God.

Ephesians 6:10-18 (NASB)

10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might.

11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.

12 For our struggle is not against [a]flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.

13 Therefore, take up the full armor of God, so that you will be able to resist in the evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm.

14 Stand firm therefore, having girded your loins with truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness,

15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace;

16 [b]in addition to all, taking up the shield of faith with which you will be able to extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.

17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

18 [c]With all prayer and petition [d]pray at all times in the Spirit, and with this in view, [e]be on the alert with all perseverance and petition for all the saints.

Battles are won with the full armor of God. Battles are lost when we are not fully covered with the armor of God.

We will talk further about the psychology of the mind in spiritual warfare, but know that God will fight your battles. The enemy will attack you without cause or warning, you don’t have to fight fire with fire. Look at what scriptures says.



Matthew 10:18-20 (KJV)

18 And ye shall be brought before governors and kings for my sake, for a testimony against them and the Gentiles.

19 But when they deliver you up, take no thought how or what ye shall speak: for it shall be given you in that same hour what ye shall speak.

20 For it is not ye that speak, but the Spirit of your Father which speaketh in you.

God is the one who wins battles, He will use us as His vessel. You have authority over the enemy, he does not have authority over you.

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