How To Deal With A Hater
© 2022 Dr. Samaria M Colbert
Let’s be honest one of the things you will have to deal with as you are on your journey to success is hatred. There is a wonderful side to glowing up and becoming a success story. However the ugly side is that your success breeds jealousy, envy and strife from people you never thought.
A hater is not the same as someone who doesn’t like you or doesn’t support you. We are living in a world where everyone thinks that because someone doesn’t purchase or participate in their product, service or seminar then they are hated. You may feel hurt about not being supported but that doesn’t mean you are hated.
A hater is someone whose actions are motivated by jealousy and envy. They can’t just be jealous they have a motive and an agenda to bring you down. They want to destroy, kill, and steal your reputation, and pervert our influence. A hater doesn’t like you and wants everyone around you to feel the same way about you.
We will look at the life of Nehemiah to discuss how to deal with a hater from a Biblical perspective. I am going to reference scripture I encourage you to read them on your own time.
The first thing to know about a hater is that they can’t mind their own business.
1 Thessalonians 4:11 King James Version
11 And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you;
A hater is someone who has an unhealthy obsession with you. They can’t mind their own business because they are so busy minding yours.
In scripture Nehemiah was a man motivated by a mission, a mandate, and a purpose.
If you are motivated by a mission, a purpose and mandate that fact alone will trigger a hater.
Haters observe you from a distance. They pretend they don’t like you, but they are constantly watching you on social media and otherwise to see what you are doing.
Once a hater starts being disrespectful to your face, they are only revealing how they felt about you in secret. Don’t minimize dishonor it is a red flag and only reveals the true nature of the person.
In Nehemiah’s case Sanballat, Geshem and Tobia talked in a scoffing like way, with deep hatred about Nehemiah’s pursuit. Reference Nehemiah 2:9
Other things to know about a hater:
They are the ones doing all the talking.
Haters always bring accusations against you.
Haters always need reinforcements, meaning they need to persuade people to be on their side so, they spread lies, accusations and rumors about you behind your back.
Reference Nehemiah 2:20
Your haters are very persistent. They keep going and are relentless in their pursuit against you.
Don’t be intimidated or distracted just keep going.
Your confidence must be in God’s opinion of you not man’s.
Reference Nehemiah 4:1-4 (KJV)
They will be even more infuriated that you keep going. They also will try and minimize your successes while speaking word curses over your vision, declaring that you won’t succeed.
Keep pray and moving forward.
They will try and intimidate your purpose and discourage you.
Nehemiah 4:15 KJV
According to Nehemiah 4:15 God will reveal to you the plot of your haters. Don’t respond in your flesh. God will also frustrate their plans According to Nehemiah 4:16-17, after God revealed the plots of the enemy the people of Israel executed a strategy to keep moving forward.
And you guessed it the opposition continued
In Nehemiah 6
They continued plotting. They tried to intimidate Nehemiah then provoke the people of Israel to sin. They used a false prophet, came up with false accusations and false rumors.
Regardless of the enemies’ strategies against you I encourage you to do like Nehemiah and the people of Israel, just keep going. They eventually did run into victory and accomplished their goal.
The best revenge is success. Remember God never promised us weapons wouldn’t form he said they wouldn’t prosper.
Isaiah 54:17 King James Version17 No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is of me, saith the Lord.
Keep going and don’t give up. You will win in the end
© 2022 Dr. Samaria M Colbert