How To Heal When You Have Been False Accused
(c) 2022 Dr. Samaria M Colbert
I woke up to accusations and lies that spread about me from people who said they supported and loved me. I have found that your success doesn’t always trigger happy feelings in others. Sometimes it reveals the people who are secretly jealous of you. Imagine with me, one of your greatest victories is preceded by one of your greatest pains. Imagine accomplishing the world and then you are hung on the cross because you are innocent. Sounds familiar right?
Matthew 27:18 New King James Version
18 For he knew that they had handed Him over because of envy.
Imagine your greatest enemy was once your best friend. This pain was different for me because all the other challenges in my life felt like small matters in comparison to this one. My apologies in advance I will not be revealing exactly what happened. Me and Jesus know. The test of accusations is what we must pass, the specific life event is not necessary to our text. If you are looking for a good drama-filled, gossip session this book and I am not for you. I will never be messy.
This season was different because my world was turned upside down and everyone or at least it felt like everyone turned against me. I cried out to God. “God, why are you allowing this to happen to me?” I remember telling God how I prayed to Him, sought His face, I paid my tithes, and have been faithful. God corrected me. He let me know that my assumptions about Him were wrong. I thought when God opened doors, we shout because a blessing was coming. I had no idea that God would lead me to the place of pain. God basically told me that sometimes He has to lead us through and too painful places before He releases new mantles in our lives. Let’s find the scripture to back up this statement.
4 Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil.
If you’re like me, you assume that being led by the spirit would simply mean a short walk into the blessings of God. However, scripture tells us that Jesus Himself was led by the Holy Spirit to be tempted (tested) by the devil. God does not always lead us to still waters, sometimes He leads us to a place of spiritual wilderness by the devil. The question you must be asking yourself is why? Why would God lead us into anything to be tested by the enemy? So glad you asked.
New Living Translation
2 Remember how the Lord your God led you through the wilderness for these forty years, humbling you and testing you to prove your character, and to find out whether or not you would obey his commands.
The most important reason why God allows us to be tested is to prepare us for the promise. A part of God’s testing is meant to do as Deuteronomy said to humble us, prove our character, and determine whether or not we will truly serve God.
The test teaches us about the faithfulness of God. Let me be clear, the test is not so God finds out who we are, He already knows who we are. The test is to prove to us and show us who we are. It is easy to talk faith until it is time to have faith in the midst of uncertainty.
Remember we have a real adversary who is satan. He is out to kill, steal and destroy us according to John 10:10. He is not going to fall asleep and passively allow us to advance God’s kingdom. God has the responsibility to prepare us for what He has called us to. The promise was never about the possessions it was about the positioning God desires for His people to have in the world. You will have to deal with false accusers, people coming against your ministry, your success, and your assignment. Your ability to succeed is dependent upon your ability to properly prepare. Preparing includes passing a series of tests. The test of accusations is one test you must pass. The thing about God’s kingdom is that if you don’t pass the test you don’t get to move forward, you get to take the test all over again. You either stay stuck or you repeat but you don’t move forward.
Are you willing? Are you ready? You picked up this book because you or someone you love is in a season of accusations. My hope is this book will encourage you to pass every test including this one. As you can tell this book is not for carnal Christians who need their egos stroked. We are going to learn how to handle conflict and accusations from heaven’s perspective. If you’re looking for a book focused on pettiness, carnality, vindictiveness, and drama this is not for you. Before we move forward let’s explore scripture that indicates what we as believers will experience as it relates to accusations, tests, and trials.
Don’t think it is strange when you go through tests and trials.
1 Peter 4:12-19 New Living Translation
Suffering for Being a Christian
12 Dear friends, don’t be surprised at the fiery trials you are going through, as if something strange were happening to you.
13 Instead, be very glad—for these trials make you partners with Christ in his suffering, so that you will have the wonderful joy of seeing his glory when it is revealed to all the world.
14 If you are insulted because you bear the name of Christ, you will be blessed, for the glorious Spirit of God[a] rests upon you.[b]
15 If you suffer, however, it must not be for murder, stealing, making trouble, or prying into other people’s affairs.
16 But it is no shame to suffer for being a Christian. Praise God for the privilege of being called by his name!
17 For the time has come for judgment, and it must begin with God’s household. And if judgment begins with us, what terrible fate awaits those who have never obeyed God’s Good News?
“If the righteous are barely saved,
what will happen to godless sinners?”[c]
19 So if you are suffering in a manner that pleases God, keep on doing what is right, and trust your lives to the God who created you, for he will never fail you.
I don’t know about you but when I started going through the test of accusations the first thing I did was think it was strange. I asked God “why am I going through this.” Well, there you have it, you are not going through something strange. We are partaking in the suffering that Christ endured. This is a harsh word; it is not a word that will get you shouting. However, it is a word from the Lord. Hold your head up, don’t give up, you are not going through something someone before you hasn’t gone through. You are going through this because of your allegiance to God. Determine now not to give up.
Romans 5:3-5 New Living Translation
3 We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance.
4 And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.
5 And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.
God’s leadership development is not a six-week course on how to win and influence people to buy your products. God develops you into what He has called you to. Problems, trials, tribulations, accusations are all painful but what produces God’s glory in us.
When we go through trials, we develop strength of character. Character is the strong, mental, emotional, spiritual, and moral qualities distinctive to an individual. The last thing we need is leaders without godly character. God is developing you into who He wants you to be. I pray you endure like a good soldier in the army of the lord.
You will be hated but you must respond in love.
New Living Translation
18 “If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first.
19 The world would love you as one of its own if you belonged to it, but you are no longer part of the world. I chose you to come out of the world, so it hates you.
20 Do you remember what I told you? ‘A slave is not greater than the master.’ Since they persecuted me, naturally they will persecute you. And if they had listened to me, they would listen to you.
21 They will do all this to you because of me, for they have rejected the one who sent me. 22 They would not be guilty if I had not come and spoken to them. But now they have no excuse for their sin.
23 Anyone who hates me also hates my Father.
24 If I hadn’t done such miraculous signs among them that no one else could do, they would not be guilty. But as it is, they have seen everything I did, yet they still hate me and my Father.
25 This fulfills what is written in their Scriptures[a]: ‘They hated me without cause.’
26 “But I will send you the Advocate[b]—the Spirit of truth. He will come to you from the Father and will testify all about me.
27 And you must also testify about me because you have been with me from the beginning of my ministry.
You know when someone hates you. I am not talking about carnal people who always claim to have haters. I am referring to when you experience hatred from people you tried to love. In my pain, I cried out to God. Hatred can be so potent that you feel it like venom going through your veins. When I cried out to God He responded, “They hated me too, without cause.” The point is not to get us to be overly concerned about haters but going back to I Peter 4 don’t think it’s strange when you’re hated. You’re hated because you don’t belong to this world. There are four things we should know about what God says about this world.
1. Be not conformed to this world. Romans 12:2
2. If the world hates you, it hated me first. (Jesus) John 15:18
3. For God so loved the world He gave His only begotten son. John 3:16
4. Love not the world nor the things of this world. 1 John 2:15-17
Remember Jesus died for the same world who hated Him. When people hate you respond in love.
Although it may not feel like it you are blessed.
11 Blessed are you when they revile and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for My sake.
12 Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you
Revile means to criticize in an abusive or angrily insulting manner. Most of us think we are blessed when we experience material wealth, prominence, or high accolades from man. We do not automatically assume that we are blessed when we are falsely accused. The feeling of being blessed is more than likely the last thing you think about when you are being falsely accused. Well, I am here to tell you, you are blessed. I encourage you to get that song Were Blessed by Fred Hammond and play it repeatedly until it gets in your spirit. The scripture in Matthew 5 was such an encouragement to me, let’s read it together in The Message translation.
10 “You’re blessed when your commitment to God provokes persecution. The persecution drives you even deeper into God’s kingdom.
11-12 “Not only that—count yourselves blessed every time people put you down or throw you out or speak lies about you to discredit me. What it means is that the truth is too close for comfort and they are uncomfortable. You can be glad when that happens—give a cheer, even!—for though they don’t like it, I do! And all heaven applauds. And know that you are in good company. My prophets and witnesses have always gotten into this kind of trouble.
Notice The Message translation says they are speaking lies about you, to discredit God. Sometimes we take things personally when it is not about us, it’s about God. Remember God can and will defend Himself.
Regardless of what it looks like no weapon formed against you will prosper. You will win.
(C) 2022 Dr. Samaria M Colbert